Hi everyone, I am new here. I have some questions regarding a man I have been dating for a year. I am certain that he has ADHD, although he has never mentioned it, nor do I know if he has been diagnosed. I've never before had a relationship with anyone who is challenged by ADHD, so it's all new to me. This is a long distance relationship at this time, with the two of us getting together every couple of months with phone calls and emails much more frequently, but not necessarily daily. He has all the symptoms. Hyperactive with sports, skiing, tennis, sailing, etc. Easily distracted. Always in motion. He drives too fast, talks a blue streak, loses track of time, etc. He is artistically creative, owns his own design business, is very intelligent and very kind. I am now very worried because I have not heard from him for a month. There was nothing in his last email implying anything was wrong, but he did mention having just taken on several new jobs. I think he may be hyperfocused on this work. He has "disappeared off the radar screen" for a couple of weeks several times in the past and then always reconnected with me. He didn't reply to my last email of 2 weeks ago, but he doesn't always reply in a timely manner, as he seems unaware of the passage of time, sometimes. Does this all sound like ADHD? I am now left to wonder whether I should just leave him alone or should I attempt to reconnect with him again? I have not wanted to chase him, but I am thinking that somebody needs to do something or the relationship will die. I actually wonder if an ADHD person could forget about someone entirely, if they are hyperfocused for an extended period of time. Is it likely or even possible that he thinks everything is just fine? Thank you for any insights.

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