I have been with my boyfriend of 9 yrs, we've been living together for 5 of those yrs. I feel lost, confused, hopeless, alone and scared. Although I love him with all my heart, I have picked up on some things that would be called symptoms of ADD over the years we've been together. He was VERY stubborn and can still be, so regardless of my concerns and the difficult rough patches we were having due to his symptoms and me being in limbo-(not knowing about ADD), just thinking he was awkward and different for a long time; he has finally realized for himself and received an evaluation.

He had an evaluation with a psychologist who has evaluated his 2 younger brothers (he's the eldest) and his father who also have ADHD. And yes despite knowing it was in his family he refused to evaluate himself for a long time-VERY stubborn. However, his 2 younger brothers were diagnosed as children and received customized learning in school. My boyfriend is going to be 29 yrs old next week--his parents refused to see him in having any type of learning disability because he did not exhibit behavioral problems as his bros did--they were hyperactive. Or maybe unfortunately his parents were too bogged down with his bros to notice any issues with him.

Well, the evaluation states he could have a "POSSIBILITY" of ADD AND-OR/Anxiety Disorder/ AND-OR Auditory Processing Disorder. She recommends he take Wellbutrin and speak with a psychiatrist about the treatment options avail to him, because as a psychologist she can't prescribe meds. She spoke of his I.Q. being high and that he does show some symptoms of ADD--- but yet excels in certain areas where a "typical ADDer" would not. She seems to be confused and I understand diagnosis takes time, but we feel like we need solid answers. He seems like he may have the Inattentive type of ADD to me and I've been researching it on sites like this for years, although I am no expert. He has emotional issues that he demonstrates at home--such as being overwhelmed, frustrated, stressed out and very angry way too easily, it has always been difficult communicating with him about "serious" issues---but lately it seems like I can hardly communicate with him at all.

Does anyone have any insight/advice on what to do from here? Do individuals with ADD get very easily AND excessively frustrated, stressed, overwhelmed and angry? If so, what can I do about it? (He has always been like this and ever since we started living together I've noticed he sulks in bed when he gets overwhelmed,stressed,upset and if I try to talk with him he pulls the blankets over his head...which is disturbing to me, but in the past year it's been happening on a weekly basis).

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