Hi Lisa, I don't know if this will help but my one of my children has ADD plus a learning disability, was almost thrown out of daycare years ago, I was in the principal's office it feels like every week, I was at the end of my rope. I couldn't even conceive of dating, I was so exhausted. What helped the most was a naturopath who took him off wheat and additives for awhile plus any other foods he had allergies to, put him on fish oil, zinc, a good multivitamin, grape seed oil and a few other things to clear out his body, and help him focus plus some homeopathic remedies to help with his over-sensitivities, melt-downs, anxiety and racing mind which is what caused most of the acting out in school and at home. I also found that letting him 'regress' a little and get back to bubble baths and reading to him at night helped him with anxiety and the racing mind, and basically just loved him to death when everyone else was saying he needed more discipline. I asked the school to give him a safe place there where he could go and no one would bother him so he could chill out, self-regulate his emotions and avoid the melt downs. He was given more support at school in terms of education (i.e. more time to complete work, breaking down assignments so they weren't so overwhelming, etc.) which meant less frustration, improved self-esteem and again, fewer difficulties at home. Now his grades are higher, he's happy, he sleeps better, he's entering adolescence in a balanced way, making responsible decisions, and is a joy to be around. And yes, I am dating again and have been for a couple of years now. Don't give up, there is help out there. ADHD may be tougher than ADD but some of the behavior is choice for them and they do have to start coming up with their own solutions as well. After all this help and support I got for my son, he also came to the conclusion he was responsible for how he behaved and he had some choices to make so a certain amount of maturity has to kick in as well which it can and will do as your son gets older. Hormones are incredibly important so as your son enters puberty do make sure you see a good naturopath to support the hormones as things can get more challenging around that time if they are out of balance. That's when things came to a head for us. I hope this helps.

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HI I responded to another of your questions and guess I should have read your original question. about that dating thing. As an adult recently diagnosed with ADHD, maybe I can give you a slighlty different perspective. I have recently begun dating again after 10 long years of drought because I had decided there was no hope for me. I screwed up a couple of really good relationships because I did not know ,nor did my partners, that most of my disorganization and spacy-ness was due to the ADHD. I am now taking meds and I also get help from an ADHD coach, long story short, I got me a steady beau now and life is pretty good. OK so what is my point exactly you ask? I guess it is Don't give up. There are good people out there who will accept you and your wonderful kids just as you (all) are. Honest. It might just take some time to sift through all the frogs masquerading as princes. You are doing it right. Be up front and honest and don't ever be ashamed of your kids. They are who they are supposed to be. My sister has raised a wonderful daughter, who is intellectually challenged. It was a struggle for the whole family for a long time. Not quite the same issue I know but the struggles did end and now my niece is one of the most beloved people in my life because my sister put her daughter first and would not let other people's cruel or misinformed comments or actions dicatate what she should do for her daughter. Keep on keeping on. You'll find someone eventually.

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ADHD guys are just like any other guy. Don't discriminate them. I have and ADHD son and I find offensive that someone can even think about not dating him just because of a diagnosis. It is not like dating an abuser, a drug addict, a criminal, or a sexual pervert. Then I'd tell you not to date that kind of guys.

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