I have an 8 year old son who is ADHD, Bipolar, and General Anxiety. He is also violent. When he was 4 and my youngest son was born I could not leave them alone in the same room. My eldest would always try to hurt the baby. I had to eventually send my eldest child to live with his grandparents. the Father of my youngest is not the father of my oldest and was having a REALLY REALLY hard time dealing with my oldest attempting to hurt his son. It didnt take long for my marrage to fall apart. We are now divorced. My advice to you is first to talk to his doctor about it and please whatever you do be very honest and blunt with the doctor. Tell him everything, tell him it is tearing your family apart. Next step is to find a counsler who is experienced in ADHD and associated problems. This counsler is not just for your son, but for your whole family (you husband and girls). Start the counsling sessions as soon as you can. Alot of people make the mistake of not letting doctors and counslers know how bad the problem really is (out of fear mostly). it sounds as if you are having a family crisis. Please dont be afraid to use those words. You also should check and see if you have a crisis hotline in your area. And please dont be afraid to use it. Sometimes having some one to vent to or get advice about a situation right then and there is the best thing for YOU and your family. The thing that really works for me is that everyone who lives in the house needs a break, everyday. Even if it is only a half an hour. THIS INCLUDES YOU. You are the one person in the family who is bearing the biggest load, it is all on your shoulders. so figure out a schedual where each adult and each kid including your son has a place and a time to go and get away from everyone. Also when your son starts into a meltdown send everyone away. ADHD kids and deal with one person better then multip. people, and they really dont need an audience of sisters watching. give this some time (a few months to work) if you dont see any improvement, then sending him to his father may be the best solution for everyone. Unless his father has a family that will be torn apart. good luck, always remember you are not alone.

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