First off I am new to this site and was unaware that a site like this even exsited, until my sons nurse told me about you guys. I am very relieved that I now have some place to ask questions and get advice, I sure could use some. Ok, I am a single mother of two boys. The 8 yr old is ADHD, unmedicated at the moment. We have taken him off of meds and are giving him a chance to clean out his system before starting him on something new. He does go to a psychitrist. We have tried alot of meds and alot of different doses, but we cant seem to get it just right. the meds either dont work or the side effects are just to bad. He only weight 50 pounds so he is a small child anyway and the whole not eating and losing weight just doesnt work for him. My 4 yr old son is developmentally disabled after a babysitter didnt keep a close enough eye on him when he was 2 and my son drown, then was revived with CPR. He ended up with brain damage. He is 4 but is on a 2yr old level. My childrens father has nothing to do with his kids at all. So everything is up to me. I have stayed single for awhile, but I am increadably lonely. I just started to date about a year ago. I went into the dating scene knowing that it was going to be very hard to find someone that would be willing to deal with both of my kids problems. I went in with a plan. I dont want to drag men in and out of my kids lives. So I decided that I would date a man for awhile, I didnt set a time period just ran on instinct. Date him long enough to know that our relationship was solid and was moving forward. Then I would introduce him to my boys and begin doing things together with the boys. Ok well all the men I have dated have been great to me, very interested in me and very interested in a long term relationship with me. UNTIL they spent a good amount of time with my boys. Of course I didnt suprise them with my kids problems, I told them about the 8 yr olds ADHD and what he was like and how bad it could get sometimes. He is very impulsive and violent twords his little brother and even with me sometimes. Then I made sure to talk about the 4 yr old and explain about his speech problem, and how he cant really understand what it is you want from him or want him to do, and doesnt understand that he did something wrong. These conversations I had with these men where not one time talks, I would talk about it often and tell them about what happened that day. And each where very understanding and some even offered advice. All was great and grand until they actually seen it happen, spent time with my kids. Each of the men have been quite nice about it, telling me they just cant handle it. But I have gotten attached to the men and each of the breakups have taken alot out of me. It hurts, alot. What am I doing wrong. Do I just have to spend my life alone?????

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