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13 Apr 2010 @ 1:19 PM
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MY 10 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WITH ADHD HITS MY BOYFRIEND

I have a 10 yr daughter diagnosed with ADHD. She seems to have the maturity of an 8 yr old. She is not out of control or mean or aggressive for the most part but at times she does hit. She is high maintenance. Her father and I have been divorced for 3 years. I have a boyfriend who is an elementary school teacher. He and my daughter get along fabulously and they adore each other. Here is the problem: My boyfriend has a wonderful, playful personality. He has a great relationship with his students because of his outgoing personality. It is child-like at times and the kids adore him. At times, when he acts silly and my daughter is coming down on her meds, she jumps on him and goes too far with the playfulness. She often pinches him and hits him. Not necessarily out of aggression, but because of her impulsivity. For example, last night, he was pretending to take a snack from her in front of her softball team and he was leaning over and she said in a playful manner "oh Brian, don't do that" and then she proceeded to hit him on the head 3 times and it was pretty hard. She also hits when they play a video game and he wins she will give him a small smack every time she loses. Help! Is this normal?

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25 Jun 2010 @ 7:51 PM Reply # 1
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In some cases it is

at nine -10 years old the playfulness with physicial assualt (lack of a better word) is ; however if it is to stop it then has to be your boyfriend to put it stop to it. I;m not sure what other behavior they share; but it sounds like at times your boyfriend acts like a kid ; and it is not intental but she like many kids can and do get carried away. I am sure she hasn't any idea how hard she hits. And if she gets embarrassed she will hit harder then and may even hurt him not or may on purpose. I think your boyfriend needs to talk to her especially since he is a teacher and the physicial part will have to stop before one of them get hurt/ And it seems like it will be him.

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23 Jul 2010 @ 9:27 PM Reply # 2
amytune Join Date: Fri 9th Jul 2010
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My daughter is only 5 with combined type AD/HD (birth mom smoked a pack of cigs a day during pregnancy, ADHD runs in the family) and she also has this EXACT same issue. She doesnt mean to be mean, but when play becomes more active, she will pinch, hit, and sometimes bite out of her impulsivity. I have not found an answer to stopping this as of yet, other than to not play so agresively with her. (wrestle, etc.)

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2 Aug 2010 @ 3:01 AM Reply # 3
sanahenk Join Date: Mon 2nd Aug 2010
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It is such a issue where you cannot be rude or harsh if you want. No matter how much irritated you get, you need to present yourself as clam and patient as possible. You might get some help at the: ADHD Health Center => http://www.healthimize.com/health/hc/Attention_Deficit_Hyperactivity_Disorder_55754_resource_center.html, so that you may make her more clam.

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