my son has had adhd and odd since he was 5 and i have had alot of power stuggles with him and my boyfriend . i have told my boyfriend that things have to change because things have changed in our family. i have found that a family routine as worked very well for us because my son and boyfriend know what is going to happen and what is need to be done an how . i also found that sometimes you have to just take charge of things and tell your husband that you feel things need to change and that even though not all things need to be over looked some of the small things do like the bathroom thing and getting up in the morning. i also want to say that my son is on metadate cd during the day and clonedine at night to help him sleep at night

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It sounds like you need to contact a therapist who works with kids and families with ADHD. Medication is just one (biological) help. The behavioral changes and family relationships are also critical and there are professionals who can help sort this problem out for you as well as provide you with solutions. This is too much for you to handle on your own. Check with www.a4pt.org to get some more answers.

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I completely sympathize with the whole "being in the middle" scenario. This has been a huge struggle at my house since my hubby and son both have ADHD. There doesn't seem to be anything more frustrating to a Dad than not feeling like he is boss of his own home. Young ADHD boys demand to be in control and so there is constant conflict. We have learned that a POSTED schedule works wonders. If it's in print and on the wall, then everybody knows the routine and there isn't any reason to argue over it. This also works for other problems — house rules, for instance. We once had a "crime and punishment" list posted. Slamming doors was on the list as a crime and punishment was clearly defined. This gave Dad the tool he needed to enforce rules — son knew the punishment as well, so when it was delivered there were no surprises and consequently we avoided the battle of wills. I've also heard that a quarter jar works — haven't tried it, myself, though. Premise is that at the beginning of each week a certain # of quarters are placed in jar. During week each infraction of rules resulted in loss of a quarter. At end of week the remaining quarters were given to child as allowance. I think the key to any plan is clear expectations and clearly defined punishment before the situation flares up.

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How To Calm Hyperactive Children: http://www.add-treatment.com/calm-hyperactive-children.html

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