Hello, I am new to this site and I am so happy to have found it. I have 2 kids and a husband with ADHD. I am wondering if anyone has any tips on how to manage a problem that I have been having with my daughter. My daughter is 8 years old. She is hyper, loud, noisy, does not stop talking and is impulsive with screaming and yelling at us (this is almost constant). I suffer from frequent migraines and I have explained to her that her screaming and yelling makes my headache hurt more but it seems that she does not even try to quiet down. I don't know if this is because she doesn't understand, she is defiant or it it is because she can't because of the ADHD? Any insight and simple behavior modification techniques that someone with a headache can manage would be great.

I would like to add that I am receiving excellent medical help for my migraines and although my headaches have been reduced with treatment, the process is trial and error and a cure does not occur over night. Certain migraine triggers I cannot control such as weather and the smell of perfume in public places.

My daughter does not sit in front of the t.v. all day. She does not watch t.v. during the week and is limited on weekends. She is very active, plays sports, soccer and gymnastics, she loves school and inspite of being dyslexic reads at grade level and has a love for books and writing her own stories. She is very creative and is provided opportunity for creative outlet. She has good friends. Her father and I are very involved parents. We do not have any other family support.

My children are not ignored when I have a migraine, I continue my day as I would when I don't have a headache because I do not have a choice. (I know I am definately not 100% on these days because I am tired and have a dull migraine, but I do try my best and I am human and have been pushed to my limits). We have been to therapy and we are waiting for an appointment with a new therapist. The therapist was not able to help us with this issue, we have not been able to stop this behavior, so I thought that I would reach out to other parents with children who have ADHD as I thought I might get some suggestions from people who have life experience with ADHD vs a therapist who has experience only via patients history and literature. We have tried charts, positive behavior techniques, and taking things away. What is difficult for me is; My husband has ADHD and does nto always follow through, she looses interest in charts and does not care about the rewards after a few times even if I change it up to keep it interesting. I take away things that she enjoys when she behaves this way, the problem that I have is that she can yell and scream and cry and throw a tantrum for over an hour try dealing with that and a migraine headache, and yes, I have earplugs and I have closed myself in my room but she can be very very loud and at times destructive. (No I cannot pick her up and put her in her room) We tried some medication, but at the time did not work out I think it was Focalin and it caused her to exhibit extreme agitation, anger she pretty much went beserk and we had to wait it out with the MD. Also, she has pulmonary stenosis which has not caused her any symptoms but we need to be cautious. We plan to try medications again after her cardiolgist visit in June. I am pretty scared to try again after her first episode. (My son is on Vyvanse and we do not have any problems with that). Oh, and Our 11 year old son who also has ADHD does not yell and scream and he responds to behavior modification.

I am not looking for sympathy, I love my daughter and her Spirit, I just don't love all her yelling and screaming any creative ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

Quote