Hello! I am a college student, so I'm not sure my advice is sound, but I was diagnosed with ADD Inattentive and I can offer my recollection of the experience. I'm 19 now, but I was diagnosed at 17. At the time, I was notoriously "lazy" and "irresponsible". In school, everything was easy and I grasped it without much trouble, but only during class periods. Once I left the classroom, if you asked me to recount a lecture or how to do a math problem, I couldn't do it. My grades suffered, my ego suffered, and my home life wasn't the best because I never got things done. Needless to say, the diagnosis was a relief. After years of feeling stupid and incompetent, I was hopeful. Maybe I wasn't just lazy. After visiting the doctor, my parents decided to try medication. Though I did have to switch medications a few times before I was matched the right one, I couldn't be happier with the results. I can manage my time, I start and complete both homework and chores, I also feel like I'm on a normal level of intellect instead of miles below the baseline. Not everyone needs the medication, but I will certainly vouch for it. As for the causes of ADD/ADHD, there are a lot of theories running around. Most significantly, genetic causes. ADHD is familial, typically passed down from male relatives. They have also linked it to prenatal exposure to alcohol and lead. I'm quite certain I have a significant familial history of ADD.

I do know my parents felt awful when I was diagnosed. They felt that, in some way or other, they had contributed by punishing me for incomplete homework and chores. I know my mom was quite distressed, realizing that it wasn't something I could control. My dad still feels bad. But I've never even thought to blame them. It wasn't in their control either. When we found out about it, they were incredibly supportive and they continue to work with me, even now. With the help of my family and a low dose of medication, I've gone from no homework at all to straight A's, complete chores, and a higher self-esteem. I think the best thing to do is be supportive and make sure you have a good doctor!

So that's my story. I hope it helped you not to feel so bad!

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