Heh. I'm not so sure that the problem is that they don't have ADHD. Your only ADHD kids are boys, and since your girls don't have it, it can be difficult to decide whether their actions are from not being ADHD or simply being girls. If it helps, I am a girl with ADHD. And I tell my mom the same things. They are just growing into nurturing roles. They 'take care' of you and 'parent' you because they just want someone to take care of and parent. I think it is to be expected of all girls, ADHD or not.

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i have ADHD (since age 7, now 43) Both my daughter's are not. My oldest does all the things you are talking about. the constant reminders, she will all but dress me when we are getting ready to go somewhere. I once asked her if she was like this because i was so NOT focused. But I worry what the longterm affects will be for my younger child. Highly intelligent and i think I am seeing her pick up my tendancies almost as though she has adhd (she does not) i find that the battle to keep her on task is more than i can take and get anything done myself, therefore she wins, and we both loose. Hopefully we can both find help. I would hate to loose the most precious things in my life

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