Please don't be so hard on yourself. You have a lot going on and no one has endless amounts of patience. I'm sure you aren't the worst mother in the world. And you can't be blamed for all of your son's issues.

It could just be that your son is suffering a bout of low self esteem. He doesn't realize what is happening, he just thinks everyone dislikes him. Here are some tips that might help give him a confidence boost (and give your parenting skills a confidence boost as well):

ADHD Parenting Advice: How to Boost Your Child's Self Esteem

Exercises to Build Confidence in your ADHD Child

The Power of Praise: Positive Reinforcement for ADHD Children

I hope this helps. Dena

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I agree with Dena you should not beat yourself up--actually I am in a similar situation with my son (9 yrs old)--he was diagnosed last year with ADHD--he is trying medications--I did not want to medicate but had no choice--his attitude recently has worsened --with school --at home--he is agitated often--and thinks I hate him. My heart breaks alittle more every time he saids that but I don't show it to him--just reassure him that I love him immensely and give him some time alone to relax. I am in the process of changing meds again--I tried taking him off the meds for a while recently but received a call from the school that his behavior worsened--so in as much as I hate giving him meds--I have no choice--however, I will advise you to just keep telling your son that you love him--praise his efforts--and most importantly--listen to anything he has to say. Hope this helps :)

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My son is 8 and tells me almost on a daily basis that I hate him, that he thinks I wish he were never born, and so on. He has been on meds on and off for four years, we've tried everything. It is hurtful, but I know he says it out of anger and frustration. I try to tune him out when he starts talking like this. I find if I respond it only fuels his fire, if I ignore him it passes pretty quickly. I hope things get better for you!

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