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28 Oct 2009 @ 1:00 PM
HFXMOM Join Date: Mon 23rd Feb 2009
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The school called......

Oh my! I just got a phone call from my son's school. He's 6 yrs old, and apparently he got into somewhat of an altracation with another child. A girl no less! She refuses to play with him, so he told her he was going to take a chainsaw to school tomorrow and kill her! OMG! I explained to the school that he doesn't know how to get his frustrations out, and when he gets hurt emotionally, he tends to make threats. I also offered to talk to the parents of this little girl to assure them that not only do we not own a chainsaw, that my son will absolutely not speak to thier daughter or any other child, or teacher involved in this manner again. How do I deal with this at home???? Grounding him is not going to work (consequence given too late), he's already had most of his stuff taken away from him for talking back to me. This child is not a bad kid. We can go for three weeks with not one episode, then BOOM, the good child is gone, and the devil returns. He is medicated. Twice a day. It's works well. I do behavioral therapy with him at home. Works well. I have an appt. with the school phyciologist to help him. I am going to see his Pediatrician on Tuesday and will discuss this with her. I'm scared to tell hubby (his step dad), 'cos he thinks my son is a bully anyway, any suggestions on how to deal with (this other than letting him know that mommy is very dissappointed in his verbal actions and sad to hear about what he's said)?

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29 Oct 2009 @ 10:47 AM Reply # 1
ADDitude Editor Join Date: Mon 12th Jan 2009
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Reign in Agressive Behavior

Yikes. That sounds like his impulsive side coming out full force. Sounds like you are doing the best you can to work on his behavior, which is probably why he manages to keep the impulsivity under control most of the time. And he is probably frustrated if he has a hard time making friends, maybe you can help him work on his social skills. Most children learn social skills by watching and imitating what others do. Kids with ADHD often need some extra guidance to learn the rules of appropriate social interaction.

Here are some articles that might provide a little extra help:

6 Strategies to Improve Your ADHD Child's Social Skills

ADHD Child Aggression at School

ADHD Impulse Control: Helping Students Manage their Behavior

17 Ways Parents Can Help ADHD Children Make Friends

I hope this helps. Dena

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27 Nov 2009 @ 9:04 AM Reply # 2
justme Join Date: Fri 27th Nov 2009
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A 6 year old and a chainsaw?

I would like to see him try to carry one. Whilst there is a serious side to this and your child needs to learn not to blurt out whatever he deems fit at that time, why on earth are the school making an issue out of it. A bit of common sense should tell them that this is hardly going to come to anything. For starters he has got to find one first and then drag it all the way to school.

I have had my fair share of school phoning me telling me that my child was this, that and the other, but honestly, I sometimes think the schools blow things out of proportion. Whilst your child has issues all I can see is a frustrated child trying to draw attention away from a very uncomfortable situation.

The worst my child did was bite another child because she was frustrated, the second time she did it she was put on detention. (she was 5 years old at the time). From then onwards she withdrew from the world even more and had no friends.

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