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Impulsive Rude Comments Never Stop
Hello! I am sure many parents here can relate to my issue with my 10-year-old ADHD son. I am referring to the "saying whatever is on your mind" issue. This has always been a problem. There are moments when my son can be the most compassionate caring person who wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings- but they are few and far between. Sadly, his 7-year-old sister is the one who gets most of the meaness from him. I used to think that he was a bit jealous because she is a pretty compliant child who doesn't cause too much trouble. But now, I just see the meaness in his comments telling her she is a dork, her friend is fat, etc. We have tried punishments: time in his room, taking away the favorite thing of the moment (right now it is XBox), grounding. Nothing seems to work. I know it is part of ADHD to say things before thinking. At conferences last week, my son was in attendance. I was trying to find something positive to say. I said I thought he was getting a bit better and mature with controlling his behavoir. His teacher was quick to say he still has a long way to go when it comes to saying mean things to other students. Any suggestions? We have tried ignoring as well....doesn't help. |
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28 Oct 2009 @ 12:33 PM
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| Dena |
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Teaching Social Skills
You are correct that many parents of ADHD kids have to deal with impulsivity issues. Since ADHD kids tend to be more immature than their peers, sometimes they need a little help with their social skills. Here are a few articles that might help: Better Discipline for ADHD Kids Building Social Skills for ADHD Children I hope this helps, Dena |
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Apologize
I could be like that when I was a child. Not only did I say hurtful things, I was unable to realize they were hurtful. I was very thick skinned - or at least I appeared that way. The only suggestion I have is to explain when a comment is hurtful and let him know that an apology would be appropriate. When he begins to apologize, it may start to register that this type of behavior isn't beneficial. It's also important to set really good examples (of kindness and apologies) so that when he says something offensive or mean it really stands out on its own as unkind.
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8 Nov 2009 @ 12:50 PM
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Impulsiveness
Of the three ADHD components-distraction, impulsiveness, hyperactivity-impulsiveness was by far the one that landed me in hot water, especially in a classroom setting. I cannot count the number of times a teacher would say one thing, and I would immediately blurt out some type of rude comment. Impusliveness ruins relationships, and consequently leads to a life of isolation and despair. |
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