You are correct that many parents of ADHD kids have to deal with impulsivity issues. Since ADHD kids tend to be more immature than their peers, sometimes they need a little help with their social skills. Here are a few articles that might help:

Better Discipline for ADHD Kids

Social Skills 101

Building Social Skills for ADHD Children

I hope this helps, Dena

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I could be like that when I was a child. Not only did I say hurtful things, I was unable to realize they were hurtful. I was very thick skinned - or at least I appeared that way.

The only suggestion I have is to explain when a comment is hurtful and let him know that an apology would be appropriate. When he begins to apologize, it may start to register that this type of behavior isn't beneficial. It's also important to set really good examples (of kindness and apologies) so that when he says something offensive or mean it really stands out on its own as unkind.

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Of the three ADHD components-distraction, impulsiveness, hyperactivity-impulsiveness was by far the one that landed me in hot water, especially in a classroom setting. I cannot count the number of times a teacher would say one thing, and I would immediately blurt out some type of rude comment. Impusliveness ruins relationships, and consequently leads to a life of isolation and despair.

http://www.adhd-information-exchange.com

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My son is the same, he's six. He can be the sweetest most wonderful kid (when you're doing what he wants) but at the same time he is so rude, it's ridiculous, he is loud and obnoxious, but as soon as his sister makes a peep he's all over her. He says whatever he feels like at the time and it's so rude! I take away his games or tv or toys, but he tells me he doesn't care and just keeps on acting nasty! OR he'll be screaming, I'll listen I'll listen, while flopping around on the floor, throwing things and just going completely crazy. I have no advice, but honestly, after a long day with him, a bath and a book are amazing LOL.

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My DS is the same. I thought I was getting somewhere, when he did started to apologize for some very unkind things he said, until he backed up what he said in the very next sentence.

elizabeth

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