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19 Oct 2009 @ 11:37 PM
Dadhd	Join Date: Mon 19th Oct 2009 Threads: 1 Posts: 0
Very Frustrated Wife Counseling recently diagnosed me w/ ADHD. I've been taken some meds with some improvement. Unfortunately my wife is one who is brunt of the whole thing. I'm sure this is common. I feel for her and understand the frustration. This empathy doesn't get me through the forgetfulness or lack of attention to important matters. So it's an uphill battle which will take a lot of patience. I'm not sure she will have it in her. On the other hand I'm not sure I want to hang all my downfalls on ADHD. So I'm perplexed and concerned about my wife and son. I want them to be able to have confidence in me and trust me. Quote

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19 Oct 2009 @ 11:37 PM

Dadhd

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Very Frustrated Wife

Counseling recently diagnosed me w/ ADHD. I've been taken some meds with some improvement. Unfortunately my wife is one who is brunt of the whole thing. I'm sure this is common. I feel for her and understand the frustration. This empathy doesn't get me through the forgetfulness or lack of attention to important matters. So it's an uphill battle which will take a lot of patience. I'm not sure she will have it in her. On the other hand I'm not sure I want to hang all my downfalls on ADHD. So I'm perplexed and concerned about my wife and son. I want them to be able to have confidence in me and trust me.

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20 Oct 2009 @ 10:15 AM Reply # 1
ADDitude Editor	Join Date: Mon 12th Jan 2009 Threads: 2 Posts: 258
ADHD Spouses Here are a few articles that might provide tips on how your family can adjust to live with an ADHD father and husband: Communication Secrets for ADHD Relationships 10 Ways to Ruin a Good Relationship Who Invited ADHD into our Marriage? Communication Secrets for ADHD Relationships Dare to Forgive: Advice for ADD Husbands and Wives I hope these help. Dena Quote

20 Oct 2009 @ 10:15 AM Reply # 1

ADDitude Editor

Join Date: Mon 12th Jan 2009
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ADHD Spouses

Here are a few articles that might provide tips on how your family can adjust to live with an ADHD father and husband:

Communication Secrets for ADHD Relationships

10 Ways to Ruin a Good Relationship

Who Invited ADHD into our Marriage?

Communication Secrets for ADHD Relationships

Dare to Forgive: Advice for ADD Husbands and Wives

I hope these help. Dena

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20 Oct 2009 @ 5:53 PM Reply # 2
kdog	Join Date: Mon 27th Oct 2008 Threads: 1 Posts: 39
There is help Getting an ADHD coach saved my marriage. A good coach can help with so many things - medications, feedback, strategies, and they can also help bridge the difficulty we can have in understanding what non-ADHD people need and how they interpret things. It has also helped me clarify some of my problems to my wife which she may have mis-interpreted as uncaring or neglect. One of the other advantages of getting a coach is that demonstrates your willingness to own the problems that ADHD present. My wife is willing to help me but she doesn't want it to be her job (at least entirely) to manage my condition. Quote

20 Oct 2009 @ 5:53 PM Reply # 2

kdog

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There is help

Getting an ADHD coach saved my marriage.

A good coach can help with so many things - medications, feedback, strategies, and they can also help bridge the difficulty we can have in understanding what non-ADHD people need and how they interpret things. It has also helped me clarify some of my problems to my wife which she may have mis-interpreted as uncaring or neglect.

One of the other advantages of getting a coach is that demonstrates your willingness to own the problems that ADHD present. My wife is willing to help me but she doesn't want it to be her job (at least entirely) to manage my condition.

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