I'm the non-ADD spouse. I definitely feel numb towards my ADD husband. I have for years. GK

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Physically numb or just kinda "out of it?"

There are definitely days where I feel like I'm going through the motions without really being present. It often comes along with boredom - not the boredom where you have nothing to do, but the boredom where you don't want to do anything. My husband (who does not have ADHD) has NO idea what I mean when I say that - I'm under the impression it's an ADHD thing.

I find it helps to do something really physical - something that makes me sweat and breathe hard. Getting in touch with my body seems to connect my mind to my world a little bit more. Failing that, I just try to get through the day and hope tomorrow is better.

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I'm to the point that I sleep a lot, I stay in my pajamas most of the day, I spend most of my time on the internet or watching Retro TV reruns of shows I watched 30 years ago. I'm just spinning my wheels. I just recently got fired from a job I had close to 6 years, and then I decided to take an early retirement. Now, my life has no focus. I have no structure in my life, no real goals. And I'm getting bored silly. I hope this is just a phase I'm going through, as I try to redefine myself outside the parameters of the working world. It's like I'm having some kind of identity crisis. Having ADD on top of it isn't helping.

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I am watching my 19 year old daughter going through the same thing. She can sit around all day and do nothing. When questioned, she gets angry. When reminded she has things to do, she gets angry. etc. Is this normal? I am getting nervous about this.

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sandielaw said: Physically numb or just kinda "out of it?"

There are definitely days where I feel like I'm going through the motions without really being present. It often comes along with boredom - not the boredom where you have nothing to do, but the boredom where you don't want to do anything. My husband (who does not have ADHD) has NO idea what I mean when I say that - I'm under the impression it's an ADHD thing.

I find it helps to do something really physical - something that makes me sweat and breathe hard. Getting in touch with my body seems to connect my mind to my world a little bit more. Failing that, I just try to get through the day and hope tomorrow is better.

Some days it's hard to get busy at all on the things I should be doing. So, I spend most of my day on the Internet. Then I feel guilty about the things I didn't get done. But, really, why should it matter that much. Who am I trying to impress. I live alone, I'm retired, I don't really have anyone to be accountable to. But, I feel like I'm missing out on life sometimes. I don't even know what the weather is outside, because I don't go out much. Like, today, apparently it snowed earlier, but I didn't even know about it til I saw the comments of local friends on Facebook! I can zone out so much when I'm on the computer, that I forget to eat, and sometimes I'm not aware of time passing until I notice the sun is coming up! I wish I could put that hyper-focus to work where it will do some good.

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It's almost like a mirror image sometimes(now the tears, again)! I read your words & it's like...ok, I'm NOT alone, FINALLY, someone else gets it, a REAL someone else out there, LIKE ME! LOTS OF THEM, LOL! The internet is a GODSEND! And I'm sure without it, we ALL would be even MORE depressed than usual & would STILL be feeling ALONE! So please DON'T feel guilty, cause I WON'T, at least not now that I've found a place that I can open up to & not feel like I'm selfish, stupid or crazee. I NEVER want to go back to that feeling & lonely life again. My closest friends don't realize why I really need sometimes & my sister & niece are the only ones I personally know who have it too. They live the next state over so communication is limited IN PERSON or on the phone. So HOLD ON PPL! Cause I'm a 'CHATTY CATHY' & need the internet to relate to YOU ALL! LOL! Angel

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