Hello,

I am sorry I do not have any answers for you, however I have teenage daughter that is in the same position. She can initially make friends but can not keep them. My heart is so sad. Homecoming just came and went and she did not go again. She is a beautiful girl (inside and out) however she has a very difficult time with social skilss and doesn't want ANY help from us. The phone doesn't ring here either. If allowed she will play X-box and on her computer all weekend. My daughter is extremely social when given the chance. However, she possesses a tough exterior. She also has learning disabilities which only allows her to be mainstreamed in 1 class, so this doesn't help either. She really doesn't care academically either...she just wants someone to accept her. We have tried conseling several times and this doesn't help...she won't open up AT ALL, she says everythings fine. When given a questionairre she also states everything is "Great"..

I wish someone had some answers...I am sorry I don't, I feel very hopeless many times, because I can't help her.

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I'm sorry but I have no idea whether things would improve for both of your kids or not and I have no idea when or how they will...Your post was very sad and I really really hope that God blesses both of your kids. Sorry no advices just prayers

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I think that maturity has a lot to do with it for him. I'm hoping he'll come into his own later in college. Perhaps he'll find some friends who are similar. With self esteem being a big part of this, I try to tread lightly with the criticism and be very supportive. What else can you do?

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Is there an area where your son naturally excel’s, some kind of community service or some other origination? I see the same things happening with my 12yr old daughter. She has always been really good with younger kids and is now starting to help baby sit and this has really boosted her self confidence. With her school mates and teachers she still has a hard time. I tried to find situations where she can excel. I wish camps or local groups were easier to find so she could meet other kids who have the same struggles. This is a tough walk for them and Hope is so important

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hi there sorry to hear about your situation - i have a 13 year old son who has the same issues - he is always alone - the phone does not ring at our house. he has 1 friend who he ignores - stating that he is not interested in friends. he has not even had a birthday party since he was 10 becuase he has no one to invite (before age 10 we used to just invite kids from his class and the neighborhood - but since he turned 10 he said he didnt want that anymore). he made a "girl" friend at summer camp this year and that lasted 3 months and she too has moved on - she doesnt return his calls anymore. he ALWAYS says he is OK but i just dont understand how he could be - i see his peers hanging out, going out, doing things and he is always alone - if it were up to him he would not leave the house. its so frustrating, deep down i know he is hurting (a mother just knows) but he just refuses to own up to it. he is in 1st year of highschool and again zero friends - its enough to make you cry yoruself to sleep - which i have done plenty of times over the years. all the best to you and your child.

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over the weekend, he went to homecoming. He asked his girlfriend if she would go "public" with their relationship and she said "yes". He was thrilled and had a great time. It's been a huge boost to his self esteem. He's not had a girlfriend before, so this means a lot to him. It goes a long way in building his confidence socially.

Hopefully, like I mentioned before, maturity will help, too. I think it takes these kids more time than their peers. One doctor once told me that they're about 2 years behind, emotionally speaking.

thank you for the support. Don't give up hope and celebrate every little achievement. Little by little, they will get there. I know it hurts to see them isolated, but every little step brings them closer. thanks again!

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i am so happy to hear that the girlfriend situation has come around - that must make your son feel sooooo good! way to go for him speaking up about the relationship and sticking up for his self esteem..he should be commended! yes we all keep plugging along, like it or not our kids are special and we just need to support, support, support - my son says one day he will buy me an island to thank me for all my worrying - how can you not love him....all the best

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