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| adhdchild |
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How do we change her attitude for the better??
We honestly are struggling with getting our daughter to co-operate with pretty much everything.......once her meds kick in in the morning, she is co-operative, but not for too long...or should I say not long enough!! As soon as she is out of school, the fight begins with her wanting to be anywhere else but home....she just has to go to someone else's house or have someone over to ours....its such a battle!! Then a battle for homework.....and just plain listening without the "no, I am not doing that" or "no, I don't want to do that", etc....and she thinks she is being funny.....we tell her all the tiime that that is not acceptable behaviour and she is only going to get herself into trouble by behaving that way....I am finding it hard to write this into words.....I honestly think she is trying to be silly but she see's us getting upset or sometimes not showing emotion and saying that this is what needs to be done and she continues to be silly.....I don't know how to handle this or how to go about changing our situation with how we handle these sorts of things.....there are many more battles to win with her but the after school thing with her wanting to go somewhere really drives me nuts!! I don't know if she feels like she has more freedom to get into whatever when she is somewhere else or what.......but she is getting older and I do not want her over at boy's houses unsupervised by adults.....if you know what I mean......we have found out that a kid she knows showed her a "porn" website with pictures on it and she has showed some of her other friends and her little sister......I am worried what she can get into when away from home.....I know that adhd kids are 2-3 yrs behind their peers in maturing but her friends that do not have adhd are starting puberty and are interested in these things.....perhaps that is why she is showing interest in this stuff.....I don't know....I am so confused.....we are thankfully starting to see a psychologist and psychiatrist to try and figure out her behaviour and meds as we have not found the right fit of meds for her yet....in our opinion anyway....if anyone has any suggestions on behaviour methods with very strong willed kids....please pass along.....thanks so much!! |
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6 Nov 2009 @ 1:38 PM
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| kdog |
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I'm not a parent so I won't pretend to understand what you're going through, but I can tell you that one of the first things my ADHD coach told me was that I needed to be taking my meds twice per day. I was taking it in the morning but that didn't help when I was spending the evenings with my wife. I was driving her a bit nuts. I now take ritalin in the morning and late afternoon. Also, while it's great you're taking her to various professionals, be aware that many of the professionals that don't understand ADHD thoroughly often misinterpret behaviors. My wife and I went to a counselor who was great, but wasn't aware of the role ADHD was playing. She interpreted my behaviors as a lack of concern or effort, or simply inability. Once I was on the right medications and working with a coach, I was able to address these behaviors successfully. The only other suggestion I might make is to take her away sometime to lunch or shopping - somewhere that you'll be able to give her undivided attention. If she has ADHD, she may not be as comfortable with her behavior as it appears. A neutral location without her daily distractions might provide an environment to discuss this with her. While I am only speculating, but it might be more of a sense of frustration she's not aware of than of having a bad attitude.
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