So history for this child is that she has shown ADD traits most of her life. This really became an issue at age 12. Teachers were contacting us almost daily with a few mild behavior issues, mostly organizational issues, and concerns about social kills and her ability (or lack of) to make and keep friends. While this is going on we had gotten a new computer which she wanted to use it all the time. Then we found out that she had lied to get an account on My Space and was putting her self at risk. She would get requests from complete strangers asking to be her friend and she would let them in. One in particular was a 33 year old male that she did not know and had never met. We canceled the account and tried to get her to understand that she was putting her self a risk. She would find ways to open other accounts until we would find them and end those. It took us a very long time to get her locked out of our computers since she is a very intelligent and creative young women. At this point we decided that it was time we got her formally diagnosed and took her to my Psychiatrist, well renowned and considered an expert in ADHD. He met with us and with our daughter we shared history issues and concerns. The Dr. felt that a trial of medication might be effective so he set about gathering the needed information to make a formal diagnosis. He sent the needed forms to the school for her teachers to complete and return to him. To our amazement they filled out the forms almost the opposite of what they had been telling us. So no formal diagnosis could be made but we know. So we try to educate her about ADD, work with her on creating coping skills to deal with her symptoms, try and assist with organizational skills and keep her as active in sports or other activities as she is will to participate in. This has truly helped. She comments on the fact that when she is in sports she gets better grades, feels better about her self, and has an easier time staying on task. She is a good kid she is not into drugs or alcohol and we do discuss this. Our understanding helps as well because we know that if we do not give her the amount of attention that she needs from us she is going to get the attention and it is usually not in positive way. We understand that if she gets bored when left on her own for too long she will get into things she knows she is not supposed to, even if that means going through a lock to get there. All our bedrooms except hers have locks to discourage her this usually helps. So she is 15 now almost 16 we live in a small community that is relatively safe. We have had issues with her getting rides from boys we do not know and she may not know. She will state oh he's a friend of so and so. She knows this is against the rules and that we believe that she is putting her self at risk. Most recently (and the reason for this posting) I woke up at 1:00 am to find all the lights on, the TV on and her not in the room. I saw a light under her bedroom door so I lightly knocked and opened the door. She was sitting on her bed with her cell phone on one side and the house phone on the other. Tucking her hair behind her ear. This is a red flag. I asked her to tell her friend goodbye and get off the phone. She told her friend that she needed to go and hung up. I asked her who she was talking with at 1:00 on the morning since she knows she is not allowed to use the phones after 10:30 on week nights. She told me the name of one of her girlfriends. I went on and finished what I needed to do. I went back to her room and asked her to come out. I picked up the house phone and pushed redial and handed her back her cell phone (electronic leash) and ask her to look up her friends number. She said ok and proceeded to look for the number. I finally asked her if there was anything she should tell me before this went any further. At this point she admitted that she had been talking to a boy that I do not know and had never heard of. She was placed on restriction for lying and I went back to bed with all the phones. A couple days later her father and I sat down with her to have a talk. I asked who the boy was that she had been talking to. She replied "oh just a friend". Her father said "no, you were asked who he is. This means his name, where he lives, how and when you met him". She stated that she had never met him. That she and her friend were bored one day so they started randomly calling numbers and he answered. She stated that he is 15 and lives in a town about 40 or so miles from us and they have just been talking. She has no concept of why we are upset and feel that she is again putting her self at risk. She has no boundaries. We are afraid for her. She honestly thinks that we are over reacting and just don't understand. I am looking for any suggestions on how to help her. As it is know we do not feel that she is safe and can not grant her many of the freedoms her friends have because we do not trust that she will use good judgment. Has anyone had success with a similar issue? I need your ideas mine are leaning toward confinement. lol

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