I never have found a good answer to this one. Just know you are not alone. Good luck I will be watching other responses maybe we can both get some answers and peace.

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hi, I'm 24 and I have ADD and I lie pointlessly from time to time just like that. My experience is that it's something that comes out unintentionally.. I usually am surprised to hear the lie coming out of my mouth and simultaneously disagree with myself for doing it. My only explanation - I don't understand it myself - is that the lie is a defense against a feeling of inadequacy, and it's not a logical thing nor does it have anything to do with the person who is being lied to. Maybe it's a combination of the rapid, impulsive ADHD mind and self worth/esteem issues.

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I agree, that is not something worth lying about. On the other hand, why would you ask someone where they bought your gift? Maybe she lied because she didn't want to admit that it came from a walmart or some cheap store? Point taken, why lie about such trivial things?

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Point well taken. I only asked her where she bought the gift, as the vase that was with it is so beautiful. She knows me well enough to know why I ask these sort of questions, but yes, perhaps the vase was actually given to her, and since she doesn't like flowers she gave it to me. The store she bought the book at is one I like to go to, but maybe she is trying to go one better, since she said how wonderful the store is that she bought it at. I guess I asked this question, because if she lies about something that is no big deal, she has obviously lied about many other things in the past. I am not upset with that of course, as whatever lies she may have told me in the past, are just that, in the past. Thank you again

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