Hi! We that would rather be "right" than happy (and married) tend to have control issues. Whether that continues depends upon the individuals, in my opinion. I had to hit "bottom" very hard (ran off friends and others) and had it pointed out to me by other ADHD individuals before I realized that being right isn't always fun. The other part of your message was that, no matter what, your husband will say the opposite of what you interpret. My ex-husband was a master manipulator and had control issues; that's what he would do. Perhaps an objective third party might be able to work some of the underlying issues out between you and your DH, maybe a counselor with experience with these behaviors/disorders. Good luck!

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Elizabeth,

Always having to be right is not a trait of ADHD. Is he that way with others or just with you? Does he truly believe that he is right (when it is obvious he isn't) or does he just want to disagree with you?

My husband has done the same thing to me and in his case, part of it had to do with his diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. And partly a pride or control issue as well.

If he does it with others and not just you then you might want to read up on different personality disorders and see whether or not he meets the criteria for any of them. A significant portion of adults with ADHD have a personality disorder as well.

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Thank you for the info everyone.

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