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8 Sep 2009 @ 1:17 AM
Elizabeth	Join Date: Wed 27th Feb 2008 Threads: 11 Posts: 37
Always Having to Be Right My DH has ADD, and currently is not taking any meds. Even on his meds, he ALWAYS has to be right about everything. Is this an ADD? ADHD trait? For example, he showed me a picture where one part was blurred and another part was clear and sharp. The part I said was clear, he said no, it is blurry. He had his eyes checked recently, so I know that's okay. It is with everything though. Yes, he knows more about computers, but will say he is right no matter what. If something is white, he will tell me it is black, or at least grey. I am not kidding. Please let me know. If it is only an ADD ADHD trait, it would be great to know that. Thank you Elizabeth Quote Last edited by Elizabeth : 9 Sep 2009 @ 11:05 AM. Reason:

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8 Sep 2009 @ 1:17 AM

Elizabeth

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Always Having to Be Right

My DH has ADD, and currently is not taking any meds. Even on his meds, he ALWAYS has to be right about everything. Is this an ADD? ADHD trait? For example, he showed me a picture where one part was blurred and another part was clear and sharp. The part I said was clear, he said no, it is blurry. He had his eyes checked recently, so I know that's okay. It is with everything though. Yes, he knows more about computers, but will say he is right no matter what. If something is white, he will tell me it is black, or at least grey. I am not kidding. Please let me know. If it is only an ADD ADHD trait, it would be great to know that. Thank you Elizabeth

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9 Sep 2009 @ 10:53 AM Reply # 1
thilts71846	Join Date: Wed 29th Oct 2008 Threads: Posts:
Control Issues Hi! We that would rather be "right" than happy (and married) tend to have control issues. Whether that continues depends upon the individuals, in my opinion. I had to hit "bottom" very hard (ran off friends and others) and had it pointed out to me by other ADHD individuals before I realized that being right isn't always fun. The other part of your message was that, no matter what, your husband will say the opposite of what you interpret. My ex-husband was a master manipulator and had control issues; that's what he would do. Perhaps an objective third party might be able to work some of the underlying issues out between you and your DH, maybe a counselor with experience with these behaviors/disorders. Good luck! Quote

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Hi! We that would rather be "right" than happy (and married) tend to have control issues. Whether that continues depends upon the individuals, in my opinion. I had to hit "bottom" very hard (ran off friends and others) and had it pointed out to me by other ADHD individuals before I realized that being right isn't always fun. The other part of your message was that, no matter what, your husband will say the opposite of what you interpret. My ex-husband was a master manipulator and had control issues; that's what he would do. Perhaps an objective third party might be able to work some of the underlying issues out between you and your DH, maybe a counselor with experience with these behaviors/disorders. Good luck!

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29 Sep 2009 @ 3:15 PM Reply # 2
Elaine20	Join Date: Sat 10th Nov 2007 Threads: 5 Posts: 258
Always Having to be right Elizabeth, Always having to be right is not a trait of ADHD. Is he that way with others or just with you? Does he truly believe that he is right (when it is obvious he isn't) or does he just want to disagree with you? My husband has done the same thing to me and in his case, part of it had to do with his diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. And partly a pride or control issue as well. If he does it with others and not just you then you might want to read up on different personality disorders and see whether or not he meets the criteria for any of them. A significant portion of adults with ADHD have a personality disorder as well. Quote

29 Sep 2009 @ 3:15 PM Reply # 2

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Elizabeth,

Always having to be right is not a trait of ADHD. Is he that way with others or just with you? Does he truly believe that he is right (when it is obvious he isn't) or does he just want to disagree with you?

My husband has done the same thing to me and in his case, part of it had to do with his diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. And partly a pride or control issue as well.

If he does it with others and not just you then you might want to read up on different personality disorders and see whether or not he meets the criteria for any of them. A significant portion of adults with ADHD have a personality disorder as well.

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29 Sep 2009 @ 4:01 PM Reply # 3
Elizabeth	Join Date: Wed 27th Feb 2008 Threads: 11 Posts: 37
Re: Always having to be right Thank you for the info everyone. Quote

29 Sep 2009 @ 4:01 PM Reply # 3

Elizabeth

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Re: Always having to be right

Thank you for the info everyone.

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