I had similar experience after cancer surgery, chemo, and then follow up preventative drugs. I couldn't do anything anymore, but couldn't explain why. My lifeturned into a real nightmare as a result (long story) but finally I was sent to a neuropsychologist for evaluation and testing. He nailed that my previously undiagnosed ADHD was severely worsened by the drugs I was prescribed and the anesthesia. He wrote a detailed report that I could have used to get disability if I'd needed to. Hope this helps - maybe you just need the correct documentation. I sympathize with you entirely - my life and marriage fell apart because no one knew what was wrong, especially me! Good news is that every thing that fell apart were ultimately things i didn't need anymore, but I was lucky in my personal financial situation at the time. I'm okay and much happier now I know what happened and why, but it has been an enormous struggle. Good luck to you!

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i am soo sorry for not relpying sooner. like i said i am having ADAH issues i forgot i even posted this. thanks for the info i will speak with my doctor about it. Did you get aproved for disability?

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Hello, My two cents, but as an adult with ADHD, I may make an hypothesis.

As you said, you learnt how to adjust with your ADHD without help. But even without having a surgery, you may have needed help without any doubt. I didn't have any major surgery, but after my Bac (secondary diploma), my ADHD worsened so much that I couldn't even study, I was unable to even watch my favorite TV program ! So even reading a book was impossible. It took time to get the right diagnosis, as there are only 4 or 5 specialists in France for adults with ADHD. So, certainly that the surgery was only the revelator you need help to cope with your ADHD : you could manage your disability before and now, you need help. You may have not the surgery, you may have needed help to cope also. So don't put everything on the surgery as a guilty : stress worsens the ADHD, but it doesn't provoke it.

Moreover, meds are not a miracle solution for ADHD. It's a great help, but it won't do all the job to get better and feel back yourself. Do you have a primary care doctor, who coordinates everything ? If not, find one you trust : if you feel in trust with the physician, everything will get better. Same for any physician, psychiatrist, ob/gyn etc....

Maybe you can try to exercise. Exercise is advised to anyone, and not only ADHD patients. It's better than trying a so told miracle diet for ADHD, as drastic diets have to be supervised because they can be dangerous for your health. Don't set too high goals, or you'll get discouraged very quickly. Instead of setting 3 hours/day of workout, and then drop after 2 days, start slowly : start with 1/4 of hour, then half of hour etc....

One change at time : if you try to change everything at the same time, you'll feel too messy. If you have to work and manage your ADHD, manage first your ADHD : if your ADHD is well managed, working will be easier. And to manage your ADHD, try one change, one new routine at time. When the change, new routine is well integrated into your lifestyle, make another one, and work on the same basis. It requires patience, I know, but it's the only mean to have darking habits : work on small long term changes instead of working on huge short term changes, you'll get better results with the first one.

Don't be too hard on yourself. If you need to get a mobile with an alarm for your appointments, use it and don't listen to people who say not to do so for a reason or another : they don't live your life, and good if something else works for them. Leave them speaking, they often don't know what they say and they speak just for speaking. Don't try to remember all your appointments, it's prone to failure, Find a way to remember them and not to be late. I use the calendar function on my mobile for my appointments, but if a paper schedule works for you, so be it ! Don't try to remember everything you have to do, because even non ADHD people don't manage to. Find solutions to ease your daily life, and remember that a solution which will ease your friend's life may not work for you.

Choose your battles : you can't manage to stop smoking and try to lose weight at the same time. Choose one or the other first, and then you can switch to the second one. And small steps who last are better than huge ones who won't last !

I am 24 yo, diagnosed with ADHD and LD (+ Single Sided Deafness) and I've learnt that after the storm, after the rain, comes the sun and the rainbow.

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