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Desperately Need Someone That Can Relate to My ADHD Husband
My husband was diagnosed with ADHD in 2005 (his doc said he was the worst case hes ever seen of ADHD), last year he was diagnosed with social anxiety, alcoholism, and anger management problems. He is on an unbelievable amount of Adderall and prozac to help control some of his symptoms. He actually takes up to THREE 30 mg tabs of adderall a day. Currently, he doesn't see a psychiatrist or therapist although he has on occasion with little success with improving his social skills and short fuse. He just had a 30th birthday, our family, his parents and siblings took him to his favorite restaurant, we had cake, gifts, and were having a great time. We all accept the social awkward vibe he sends out during social occasions, he's loud, impulsive speaker, a bit rude, always gets, interrupts, above all the ADHD behaviors you would expect. However, toward the end of the evening, as it was getting late, we were trying to wrap it up, he refused to open his last gift until he could tell another of his weird stories, that honestly make no sense. He ended up giving the gifts back to his mother, saying he didn't care about them at all and hurt her feeling deeply with some more cruel words, all because she was ready to go home and rushed him a bit. Also, his sister made him a cake from scratch and the first thing he said was I'd really like to take this outside and throw it, wouldn't that be fun? Anyway, most were offended, which he realized after we finally got him to the car. Then he called his mom to apologize who was not too receptive and cried. This just made my husband angry that this has happened again and he was ready to punch a hole in the window of the car. He asked to get out and walk home, as I new he needed a change in environment I agreed. NINE hours later he arrived home. NINE. I'm losing hope. He continually gets into conflicts wherever we go. At our anniversary dinner he disagreed with the bill and refused to pay an extra 20 bucks which almost lead to an arrest. He doesn't understand, or maybe he does but doesn't know what to do either, what effects his behaviors have on those closest to him. We have two young boys that I hope don't grow up with his manners and behaviors, He is a great father and fantastic husband, but only when just our immediate family (me and our 2 boys) are present. Am I doomed to worry constantly if my husband will get arrested today, or fired from another job or kicked out of another store? or that I cant take him with me anywhere, even to small family gatherings? He and I want him to be a good influence on our children. I'm looking into him seeing a pshychiatrist again, this time having his hormone levels checked and medications adjusted. Am I alone? Does my husband in fact have the worst case of ADHD out there? What more can we do?
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13 Jul 2009 @ 10:51 AM
13 Jul 2009 @ 2:25 PM