I think that you should try taking him for a second opinion.

What type of specialist have you been seeing? How often do you talk to him/her? The best is a pediatric psychiatrist, neurologist or developmental pediatrician. These are MDs who have seen all types of children with difficult symptoms. They are also able to order certain tests and prescribe medication where warranted. Follow-up should be monthly, especially during the first year or two.

That said, many doctors don't like to diagnose ADHD before school age because so much normal toddler/preschool behavior can seem like ADHD.

As for behavior management, you might want to try reading Raising Your Spirited Child by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka.

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WHEN I READ YOUR POST, I FELT YOUR ANXIETY. MY DAUGHTER, WHO IS 10 ALSO, DOES THE EXACT SAME THING AS YOUR SON. SHE GOES UP TO PEOPLE OR KIDS HER AGE AND WANTS TO HUG OR KISS THEM. SHE WAS DIAGNOSED WITH HAVING ADD AFTER SHE HAD 2 SEIZURES WHEN SHE WAS 4. I WISH THEY COULD FIND WHAT REALLY GOES ON IN YOUR BRAIN. WE NEVER HAD PROBLEMS WITH DISCIPLINING HER UNTIL AFTER SHE HAD HER 2 SEIZURES. NOW WHEN WE TRY TO SCOLD HER OR TRY TO CORRECT HER SHE JUST LAUGHS. WE TAKE OUR DAUGHTER TO A PYSCHOLOGIST AND WE KEEP GETTING TOLD, JUST KEEP WORKING WITH HER. SOMETIMES I'M ON THE BREAKING POINT AND I WOULD LIKE TO JUST RUN AWAY. IF THERE'S ANYTHING YOU HAVE TRIED AND WORKED PLEASE LET ME KNOW. MY DAUGHTER ON THE OTHER HAND DOES NOT GET INVITED TO BIRTHDAY PARTIES OR SLEEP OVERS. THERE WAS A SLEEP OVER AT ONE OF HER SOFTBALL TEAMMATES HOUSE. SHE WAS NOT INVITED. I FIND MYSELF CRYING JUST FOR THE FACT SHE DOES NOT HAVE MANY FRIENDS AND I PERSONALLY KNOW WHAT THAT FEELS LIKE. IF YOU EVER NEED A SHOULDER PLEASE CONTACT ME.

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