Many people ADD/ADHD or not will have and send mix signals to the person of interest. It has to do with their confidence and some just ike the chase. If I were you I would let him know you are interest; but you won't be toyed with. If someone else catches your eye I would date them if they ask because the man you talk about may never make the move. If he really has peeked your interest then I would ask him out. He may want to ;but be very shy about it. I asked my husband out first ; and also made the first move with my ex. If he wanted to they could have said "NO". Don't let it upset you if you ask and he say 'no" . If he does say yes expect to pay ; and let him know if he wants a second, third date he will have to pay . If you and he are very tight budgets it is okay to go dutch a few times. I have a best friend who is a guy ; and it depends who has the money when we go out. It really doesn't matter because it always works out. If you feel you can't do it then you and he may continue this dance for a very long time

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If a man is interested in dating you, he will make it known. If he doesn't, he's not. Wouldn't you rather go out with someone who's feelings you don't have to wonder about? Someone who is interested in you every day and not just sometimes?

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I sometimes have trouble with identifying whether my husband is insecure and unable to accept and love himself, bipolar, or ADHD, as he switches between Jeckyl and Hyde behavior all the time, saying he loves me and how I saved his life, and am his angel one week, and the next week telling me I limit his success and am the cause of his misery. He refuses to take anything (herbs, supplements or pharmaceuticals) or seek treatment for his condition(s). My point is the situation may be indicative of something much deeper than ADHD or confidence. Proceed with caution is my advice. I have two kids with this man and we run his business together, so it's really hard to walk away now.

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Thank you so much for your replies. I think all of the them are valid and helpful. Its funny because I just watched the movie and thought...well, maybe the guys is "just not into me". On the other hand, I also think that he has a some other serious issues...he is very double minded. I think maybe he is bipolar or something else...He seems to push away the people that are closest to him. I dont think he has any close friends and he is not even close to his family. Its almost like he is testing me to see if I will still be his friend. Usually right after he acts cruel or dismissive, the next time he will try to approach me to see if I will accept him. Strange. I pretty much have scratched him off of my list of potential boyfriends, but at the same time, I still care about him as a person and want to try to stay as a friend ...

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