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Identity Crisis (of sorts) and Marital Stuff
I found out I have ADHD last fall, and it was the moment when everything kind of fell into place. All the weird habits I have, all the stuff that I never really understood about myself, all the stuff that made me different from other people...all of it suddenly made sense. I was glad to finally understand why I am the way I am, but at the same time, I've discovered a minor, nagging thought: who would I have been, if not for ADD?
Don't get me wrong, I'm NOT in a full-fledged identity crisis here, but sometimes I wonder who I would've been if I hadn't had ADD. Would I have made it to an Ivy League school? Probably. Would I have achieved success sooner? Definitely. Would I have excellent credit and a better interest rate on credit cards and my mortgage? Yes.
But more importantly, the question I occasionally ask myself is, once you strip out all the stuff that I thought made me "unique," "quirky," and "interesting," most of which I've learned are ADD symptoms, what's left of ME?
Finally, any advice on how I can help my husband cope with my ADD? We're going through a stressful time and I'm noticing my ADD gets worse with stress. Consequently, I'm interrupting him a lot more, experiencing a lot of what I call "the ADD version of Tourette's" where I just say whatever's in my head, without thinking first, and getting distracted when he's talking. Not, of course, when I'M talking, but when he's talking...which isn't too pleasant for him, I'm afraid. Since my husband has overfocused ADD and tends to get stuck on the negative stuff, we're struggling a bit. Any suggestions or ideas?
Thanks!
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16 Jun 2009 @ 12:01 PM
16 Jun 2009 @ 12:32 PM