My daughter is 14 now. I went through the back talking, arguing, stomping, slamming, etc. It was hard for me to correct her because she didn't even realize what she was doing. Then it occured to me to bring it to her attention. When she was arguing with me about something, I would simply and calmly say, "I don't feel like arguing with you" and I would walk away. Or when she was back talking or smarting off, I would say " I don't like to be talked to like that" and I would walk away from her. When she would slam things or stomp away, I would just say, "I hope you don't hurt yourself doing that." It took a long time and several times before she got it, but she did get it. She does still occassionaly argue (she is a teenager, I expect it) but for the most part all of the other behavior stopped. Now if I could just get her to remember to turn in her homework!!

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I have the same issues....the backtalking, stomping, and the following around. Sometimes she will not let go of a subject.....If she wants something and doesn't agree with me I hear "But Momma" a hundred times. She is on concerta, but not during the summer and not on the weekends. I am the only one who has these issues with her. Her dad and I are divorced and she sees him every other weekend. The Concerta makes her stomach hurt but when we tried school without it, her grades went down. She maintains A's and B's on the Concerta. Also, we have the issue of forgetting to turn things in. Her school refuses to give her an IEP or 504 or anything because of her grades. The sleeping thing seems to be better this summer as she swims alot and plays softball. So she gets tired. Anybody have any ideas on how to curtail the backtalk and attitude? If I tell her to stop arguing with me she just says: I am not arguing! I don't have a mouth! I am not talking to you like anything! I try grounding her but am not sure what the solution is.

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Hello, Just wanted to let you know that our son (who is 10) started pulling his hair while on all stimulant ADHD medication. He did not realize he was doing this either. It is pretty common with stimulant medications per psychiatrist at University Hospital in Ohio. Once we took him off stimulants, the hair pulling stopped as well:)

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I started using the 1-2-3 magic with my 9 year old son with ADHD. he was extremely defiant, disrepectful, etc. it has worked wonders. I also now incorporate the positive responses also. for every negative, I give 3 positive (or try to as often as I can). for example, my son might be playing games, I say turn it off, I give him about 30 seconds to save (after warning him 3 min before - never do a turn it off now with ADHD give them a 3-5 min preparation - as we don't like to be told to do something right this second, neither do they). tghen if he doesn't after 30 seconds, I count "Thats 1". usually my son will then turn it off. if not, I wait 10 seconds, then "Thats 2". then wait 10 seconds "thats 3 - take 9 min). he is good about going on time out in his room. now if he turns it off after 1 or 2 I tell him thank you for turning it off. positive. i also tell him I appreciate his behavior constantly if he is behaving for 5 min. now I go about 30 min and tell him I appreciate his calm behavior or his doing something I asked him to. sometimes it feels overboard but with them, they are already very negative about themselves they need tons of positive. I have seen a huge difference and the difference was done within 2 weeks of starting 1-2-3, first couple days was harder as he tested us but we stuck with it.

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"We are really stressed out with the changes she goes through. The Daytrana pach seems to take awhile to get in her system, and takes a few hours to notice. Its really depresses us to see her in a state of not being herself while on it."

This statement concerns me. Your daughter's personality should not be changing. She should just be able to focus on what she's doing better. I can't help but wonder if this is the right choice of medication for your daughter. Have you discussed how your daughters affect and behavior have been affected with the prescribing doctor? How often do you check in with the doctor? What kind of doctor is it? Monthly check-ins either in person, or by phone, should be taking place until the medication regimen is working the way it should.

Not every child reacts the same to any given medication. Even my identical twins are on different medications for their ADHD. One daughter was immediately helped by plain old Ritalin, while the other daughter took several years of trying various things before we were able to help both her ADHD and anxiety.

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