I am very involved with this wonderful man I am crazy about. Here's the problem. When my hunny gets tired, and I mean really tired - he gets rude, blurts things out etc. I have learned to accept that not as a personal attack, but almost a child like reaction from him (when kids get over tired, they get cranky etc). So here's the issue. My youngest has ADHD and when his meds wear off or he gets really tired...he can be a real handful. I do not let him away with anything (I'm very strict), Tonight, both my hunny and son were extremely tired, and my son was being his usual self, but my hunney lost it and said " you need to take your son home, he's being very rude and I won't tolerate it". He said it so coldly and in front of my 6 yr old. I didn't hear the incident, as I was conducting an interview for my daycare. I was fully prepared to take my son to task for it - but I didn't like the way he told me I needed to take my son and leave (he wants us to move in with him....????), I asked him how he would feel if I said that about his kids - he then informed me that his kids would never behave that way, THEY don't have ADHD. Needless to say I left, hurt and very upset. So then my hunny texts me (which is what he does when he knows he's in the wrong and he wants to see if I'm still mad) appologizing saying he knows my son was tired. I called him and we talked, but as soon as I asked him how he'd like it if I said the same things to his children...he got upset again, and hung up on me. I texted him back and told him that is he ever said that again, I would leave and not come back and he'd better think on that for a while. Here's the kicker, my hunny only gets like this when HE is really tired. When he's had enough sleep, he's sooooo good with my son. The other thing that gets me is when his daughter is over to visit, she can do no wrong, but my youngest can. I almost dread her coming over. Fearful that I'll have to spend the whole weekend defending my son. I know my children aren't perfect, however I don't let them away with anything either. He doesn't want to discipline as he only sees them on the weekends. When his daughter is rude, or misbehaves, all I hear is "oh she's just tired", yet he expects me to take my son to task! I love this man dearly, and I would love to move in with him, my children love him to death, just this weekend his daughter asked me if she could call me mom. sigh. I need some serious advise regarding how to deal with my son and my hunny, or how to help the situation. Something that I can print off and show to my hunny.

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