Kris I think its great that you are willing to be supportive for her. Read all you can about adult adhd from this website & others. Physical comfort (while its great) I'm not sure is going to help a whole lot. Probably learning about what it means to have adhd is going to be more helpful. I was just diagnosed with ADD Oct 2008 & I'm really struggling with making my mom understand what it means to have gone through 46 years of behaviors that have been slowly changing through medication & behavior modification. Its not helping me that my mom refuses to do any research on what it means to have add. Good luck....

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Welll it a great place to be in order to learn to about ADHD. Being a female with ADHD and married the things that work for me may not work for you. When she is really upset; announce you are going before you actually do so she is forewarned and you are not being perceived as walking out. Don't talk down to her; and don't allow her to use ADHD as a crutch to get away with bad behavior. However do be forewarned she will have many issues that may take patience especially if she has organizational problems. Don't initailly combine your monies because there a good possibility she doesn't pay bills on time(I don't so I know first hand) until you both agree on finance should then and only then monies can be combined. Don't ever expect things to be perfect (No such reality even in the "normal" world) . Time may also or not could be an issue because if we are engaged we don't really have no sense of it. I was always told by my friends we were going out an hour to two before we actually were to leave so I would be on time. Find a trick that works. If she forgets something don't assume she doesn't care , something else got in the way of her head to pay attention to the thing she may have promised like picking up the dry cleaner or starting dinner. Convince her to put things she needs to keep with her or find in the same convient place so she can find it easily . I put my house key and lock thre door inside the house leaving the key inside on the door so I know where it is always. I hope this helps; be yourself don't walk on egg shells around her. It not easy for anyone when we live with each other we all no matter ADHD or not have to get use to it. Good Luck

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