I'm having a bit of an issue with my partner. My 6 yr old is ADHD, and can be VERY defiant at times. I know it is his ADHD (these bouts of defiance seem to happy when my son is not being stimulated, OR just coming "down" from his meds for the day), and not just trying to piss off the world or my partner. However, my partner seems to think that he's just being "bad", and "acting" like a brat. My son was way more hyper than normal last night, and got on my partner's nerves - so what did my partner do? (we don't live together....yet???) He got up and walked out. Said he won't tolerate a child behaving "like that" (my partner has 2 children of his own, one is "normal", and the other is ADD - but he doesn't get to see what his son goes through being ADD on a daily basis as he only sees his son bi-weekly). My partner then came back to talk, and said that I can't blame the ADHD, and that I'm just using it as a crutch. He tells me all the time that he is there to support me, and my son etc. But I find it hard to believe when he can so easily get up and walk out. I can't just get up and walk out, nor would I. This whole thing is stressing me out!. I have two kids to "handle" then. I have to say, first and foremost, that A). my partner is typically a very loving and supportive man - my son is not his child, not has my partner ever been exposed ADHD for any length of time. B). I do not let my son get away with inappropriate behavior - being a single mom for so long, I have to play both roles, and I KNOW I am doing a great job, and I KNOW I am a wonderful mother. I am strict with my son, and do not tolerate poor behavior ADHD or not. Can someone or everyone please throw some thoughts and or advice this way please?!?!? I'd like to print this off and let him read it. Just so he can get some kind of understanding.

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