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27 Mar 2009 @ 1:00 PM
nilsg1984 Join Date: Fri 27th Mar 2009
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AD(H)D - Myths Involving Sexuality

Hallo everybody! First of all I should stress that I'm not absoloutely sure whether this is the right place to post my question but it is really urgent for me getting an answer to it... I often heard and maybe depending on the point of view I experienced it on my own, that AD(H)D very often includes 'differences' with regard to sexuality. Far apart from hypersexuality which is very often associated with ADHD as (far as I know) there are aspects like fetishes or (without judging it) unusual fantasies which seem to play an important role. All in all sex seems to have a very high priority among people with AD(H)D I would say and I just want to know whether there is scientific evidence about it. It would be great if you know any ressources about AD(H)D and sexually related aspects and topics. Don't get me wrong asking such questions but it is very important for me to understand AD(H)D and sexuality in order to accept certain aspects in my life. Thank you very much and enjoy your weekend! Yours Nils from Cologne, Germany. P.s.: Sorry for my bad English.

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13 May 2009 @ 7:36 AM Reply # 1
Searching Join Date: Tue 30th Dec 2008
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I've never heard anything like that.

I have never heard anything like that before. Although it would be interesting to know. because I am severe ADHD but completly asexual. I have no sex drive, and no interest in sex at all. I have often wondered if this had anything to do with my condition.

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14 May 2009 @ 10:31 PM Reply # 2
Rekka_Yoruhana Join Date: Sat 25th Apr 2009
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Me too.

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Searching said: I have never heard anything like that before. Although it would be interesting to know. because I am severe ADHD but completly asexual. I have no sex drive, and no interest in sex at all. I have often wondered if this had anything to do with my condition.

You mean I'm not the only one who's completely uninterested in sex?!

I don't mean to pry, but how old are you?

I'm asking because I'm 20 years old myself, and I'm agitated by, even turned off by, physical affection/intimacy in general (let alone sex). I was thinking at first that it was just because people with ADD tend to lag a few years behind their peers in terms of social and emotional maturity, combined with the Neo-Pagan sex ed I've had crammed in my head ("Yes, sex is fun; the gods like it when you appreciate their gifts, but they also made it for making babies! Don't forget or they'll teach you a nasty lesson!"), but I've started to wonder lately...

Especially now that I gotten a few nasty comments from some males (I hesitate to say "men") directed at me because I'm hesitant towards intimate physical affection. I actually broke up with a guy because I knew I couldn't give him the intimacy he needed, so I broke it off and encouraged him to find someone else. It gets really stale to be the third wheel when hanging out with my friends though, so this is an issue that interests me.

I hope it's not an underlaying condition, or some crap about my relationship with my father (which is not good, so I would not be at all suprised that it might affect other areas of my life; it would just be annoying...).

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18 May 2009 @ 8:27 AM Reply # 3
skrva Join Date: Wed 15th Apr 2009
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sexuality

Well, I do have problems in this area, but just because I have a hard time focusing and being on the same time frame as others. I am very interested in sex, but only on my schedule! ; )

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19 May 2009 @ 7:54 PM Reply # 4
MJDavis85 Join Date: Mon 18th May 2009
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high sex drive

I am 24 and i'm a dude with ADD and my sex drive i think is off the scale. I think about it all the time more then a normal guy would without ADD. Plus when me and my lady friend do it i want to go again and again and again .. So ?

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19 May 2009 @ 11:31 PM Reply # 5
Keith Bailey Join Date: Tue 24th Mar 2009
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Distraction

My experience with ADHD and sexuality comes from my little friend distraction. When I was younger, and the symptoms were at the height of their collective powers, I became distracted during sexual encounters on numerous occasions. The faucet dripping water distracted me!! I am glad aging eliminated that.

As far as fetishes are concerned, ADHDers are known for their creativity. I do not know if that is a factor, but I would like to learn more.

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30 May 2009 @ 2:02 PM Reply # 6
ADD RN Join Date: Wed 21st Nov 2007
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Sex

Sex is highly a brain game more than just a physical thing if you are not in the right frame of mind for it no matter who you are you are not engaged in it. Many ADHD have hypersex lives but it because of the engagement of their mind into the risky behavior that can be associated with it. Also many ADD/ADHD are very distractible, hypersensitive to touch, noises, smells so it is not unusal that many would not be interest in it at all either. Sex is highly personal ; and their is no normal what is right for one may not be right for other.I f you ar healthy and are not having problems with your health such as hypertension, diabetes etc then it really up to you to decide how much sex you want ; and more importantly make sure it is safe. . Make sure you really know your partner , use condoms, and know safe sex practices. Then have sex if you want too.

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8 Jun 2009 @ 8:30 PM Reply # 7
Rekka_Yoruhana Join Date: Sat 25th Apr 2009
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The "fetish" thingy...

The whole "fetish" thing is a tricky question because there isn't a really accurate, one-size-fits-all definition for what constitutes a "fetish." I've met people who don't view anything that isn't outright harmful as perfectly normal for sex, while there are others for whom ANYTHING outside of heterosexual, Missionary position, man-on-top, "Lie back and think of England (for the ladies)" type sex is "kinky" and "abnormal."

But I will concur that people with ADD are very creative when it comes to sex, and I think this has a lot to do with being easily bored by routine. There are a couple books, one titled 'ADD and Romance" (forgot the author, sorry), that go into ADD and sex pretty well. One mentioned that people with ADD often focus more on foreplay rather than the sex itself, which can be helpful for people who are easily distracted during sex. You can probably find some good books on the subject on Amazon.com.

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9 Jun 2009 @ 8:47 AM Reply # 8
Erebus Join Date: Fri 5th Jun 2009
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Intensity

I believe we are what we are, sexually speaking, but also that ADD tends to magnify the importance of whatever helps us to hyperfocus and anything dangerous or "kinky" will fill the bill. It's all about intensity and what turns on the foglights. Some of us like to hang glide, and some of us, well...

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