It's true that some ADHD children do have trouble with lying but I haven't heard much about this problem in ADD adults. Does your husband have any other symptoms of ADD? If it's a neurological condition, that's one thing; but if he's just willfully lying, that's quite another...

Best of luck!

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I am also ADHD and my husband and child are not; However no matter what is happening me being the ADHD person they think I will forget and try to blame me for things that I have nothing to do with. I actually feel like the scape goat . To keep things simple I now write down anything I think I will need at another time. I carry a small ring bind book and if you said it "I know" As for infidelty this is a real tuff one because it goes to the core of your marriage. It says if you notice things like frequent night out without you.; or coming home late , dressing differently , new clothes and scents you may have something to worry about; but be sure you know what your talking about before accussing him of anything. Staart writing things down , watch your money ; and call him out without fighting . It really up to both of you to work things out ; and if he misrepresents you set the thing straight don't allow him to run the show. Sometimes it help to meet with the counselors alone seperately before going together. They get a feel for what is really going on before they should be saying anything and then watch how you interact. My first counselor felt my husband just didn't get ADHD and felt I took on too much of the responsibility for him and how he felt. It took along time; but I now feel it not up to me to worry how you react to what I said and I will not take on the blame for you, what you do, or how y ou messed up. I also learned to apologize something I found most of Virgos (8/23- (9/21) tend not easily to apologize and they do easy critize especially when stressed.

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Wow! Your post really hit home for me. My husband has been diagnosed with ADD. However, he refuses to seek treatment. He denies ADD affects his life. He sort of sounds like this: "What? A pill is going to make everything better?" Anyway, I find that he is dishonest about little things or tells half-truths. I've come to believe that one reason he does this is that he is too impatient to tell me the whole truth. He resorts to quick fibs or lies of omission rather than taking the time to sit down and fill me in on all the details or start at the beginning. Most likely a second reason he lies to me is his way of continuing to live in denial. His lies are having a devastating effect on our marriage for the exact reason you stated. Since I can't trust him to tell me the truth about whether he made a needed phone call or dropped an overdue bill in the mail, I find myself questioning everything that comes out of his mouth. I've sort of become a "deer in the headlights." I do not believe his intent is malicious, however he becomes extremely defensive when I call him out on these lies. His lack of empathy (as a result of struggling with ADD) when I have pinpointed him on an issue, leaves me feeling quite devalued and irrelevant. Although it doesn't solve anything, it feels good to know I am not the only one who is dealing with this issue.

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