Hang in there. You'll figure it out. And don't get too down on yourself. I found this piece of advice about how much information to share and I thought it was pretty good: If you wouldn't want to see what you just said on the front page of the newspaper, don't say it at all. ADHD Adults tend to say too much too soon. Don't be in a hurry to share intimate information about yourself. Work on being a good listener rather than doing all the talking. People appreciate a good listener.

Good luck Dena

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The way I see it dating is getting to have fun with someone and begin to see if you enjoy each other, I takes or should take weeks because you are ready to open the world into you personal life . And their are so many single parents out there they alll understand it,.. go see the move He's just not inta ya and it gives areall insight into the world of dating . I'm in my 50 and I go out with my male friend once or twice a month we remained friends from 13yr old so it not anything about sex. It is about having fun we go to eat , sport games, walk in the NYC villlage ; china town, Hell's Angels , play pool and just laugh alot I asked once what h would think if I broke up my husband what he though I should do. He answered I would take you and run away with you. So I asked about what other guys would see. He said a likeable ,kind individual, who will say no when uncomfortble; but has no fear looking silly once in awhile and will dress up at Hallooween , go to childs park and play on their swings etc. It help that I like sports and I love music, he thinks I'm spiritual, just plan fun MY new goal is to Beat HIM AT POOL!

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It sounds like very challenging and frustrating situations for you in several ways. My heart goes out to you. It can be very overwhelming at times. That's when a dog/pet can be so comforting, with unconditional love and acceptance, and a good way to meet other dog lovers too, Dogs listen to you and don't talk back.... That's only a good option if they don't cause MORE stress in your life. I have a Certified Therapy Dog that I trained. She & I do volunteer visits to nursing homes. There are a lot of really nice people you can meet when exercising your dog at a park, and dogs can be a great topic for conversation starters and keeping things' light '. Volunteering can be a great way to meet people, give back, and feel good about your self as you help others. Build on the 'gifts' that you have , that you bring to this world and 'go for it' ! tdi.dog.org is the site for therapy dog info if you wish.

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Nikita:

Have just discoved that I have adult ADD and it sure explains a lot. I always wanted a relationship too, but the girls I was interested in were not. And the girls interested in me I always seemed to "escape" from. Anywhosomever; after a few decades of trying and observing and winding up in a horrible relationship, I can offer you some advice that may help. When you first meet people, they'll think you're a brilliant conversationalist if you don't say much and encourage them to talk. Be a good listener first, comment just enough to keep them talking - that takes the pressure off you. If they really want you to talk more, try FORM topics - Family, Occupation, Recreation and Money. I wouldn't try to explain anything too personal until later in a relationship when you feel comfortable doing so - if you don't feel comfortable discussing something, don't. If someone can't respect your privacy, you may want to think carefully about the relationship.

Hope that helps and please keep trying - loneliness is a terrible thing.

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