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18 Feb 2009 @ 2:13 PM
Ruby57	Join Date: Wed 18th Feb 2009 Threads: 1 Posts: 0
Helping Non-adhd Depressed Spouse with Decisions I have always been the one with trouble making decisions and sticking with them. Now my husband wants to get out of the Financial Services Industry after 22 years. I have worked in his office for the last 4 years and hated it. The problem is, what would he do next? I can always go back to my nursing career, which I've always loved. If I support him in getting out, I'm afraid I will be helping him commit career suicide. If I don't help him commit to an action one way or another, he'll remain in a state of limbo. He is under Psych treatment for depression. We cannot afford to wait in inactivity. How do I move this process along responsibly? Quote

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18 Feb 2009 @ 2:13 PM

Ruby57

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Helping Non-adhd Depressed Spouse with Decisions

I have always been the one with trouble making decisions and sticking with them. Now my husband wants to get out of the Financial Services Industry after 22 years. I have worked in his office for the last 4 years and hated it. The problem is, what would he do next? I can always go back to my nursing career, which I've always loved. If I support him in getting out, I'm afraid I will be helping him commit career suicide. If I don't help him commit to an action one way or another, he'll remain in a state of limbo. He is under Psych treatment for depression. We cannot afford to wait in inactivity. How do I move this process along responsibly?

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6 May 2009 @ 4:36 PM Reply # 1
Melissa Orlov	Join Date: Sun 6th Jan 2008 Threads: 0 Posts: 20
out of financial industry These days it would seem as if staying in the financial services industry could be problematic. If he is still employed, encourage him to research in earnest other areas that might interest him, possibly seeing a career counselor. This will help him assess whether or not there might be opportunities in a new area. Though you dislike your job, I would hang onto it right now if you feel you can. Seniority counts when layoffs might be coming. Then, when he settles down you can consider a change, too. Quote

6 May 2009 @ 4:36 PM Reply # 1

Melissa Orlov

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out of financial industry

These days it would seem as if staying in the financial services industry could be problematic. If he is still employed, encourage him to research in earnest other areas that might interest him, possibly seeing a career counselor. This will help him assess whether or not there might be opportunities in a new area.

Though you dislike your job, I would hang onto it right now if you feel you can. Seniority counts when layoffs might be coming. Then, when he settles down you can consider a change, too.

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