must be something in the air! i am so sorry you are feeling how you are. being a stay at home mom is so hard. i'm a working mom and just being home on the weekends sometimes is so exhausting - and that's only 2 days! here are some of my thoughts: mr. perfect needs to let you have at least an hour a day to yourself when he gets home. you can't be a good mom & wife unless you have time to decompress. remember that you are pregnant. that comes with a lot of emotions and hormones. once you get back on meds you'll feel better. ride it out, you've already come this far! speak to your pediatrician about local support groups for moms of special needs. it helps to have like minds to vent with. about summer. you said you are creative. involve the kids. go hiking, to parks, make chalk paint. get outdoors as much as possible. create treasure hunts, scavenger hunts. the mother-in-law. have her babysit as much as you can. maybe rotate kids on the weekends. "special day" with grandma. if she thinks she can do it better, let her have one or two for the day. gives you a break and it's good for the kids. as for feeling alone. look for local mom groups. invite moms & kids from your kids classes over for a playdate or arrange to meet at a park. try to volunteer for school social functions- get your MIL or hubby to watch kids. bottom line - you are so important to your kids and your husband. hang in there. my favorite quote: "courage doesn't always roar. sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow." take it one day at a time.

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No wonder you feel a bit crazy, I'm sure your situation is very overwhelming. Mama2girls offered great advice. A support group is a good idea. It will at least get you out of the house. Hopefully, you'll meet some other women so you won't feel so alone.

Since you can't take meds right now, have you considered alternative treatments for your ADHD symptoms? There are probably natural supplements you can safely take, t hough you should consult your doctor first since you are pregnant. And just taking the time to do some deep breathing or meditation does wonders for your body and mind and it is good for your baby too!

Hang in there.

Dena

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It is hard enough being pregnant without all the critism. As the other people who had responded thus far you need some time ALONE, no kids, no husband each day or at least an hour or so a day (every other day).

Also, you need to talk to your doctor about this being your last child. Children are a lot of hard work and our ADHD kids even need more time, guidance, and effort. This is our harsh reality, which should cause us pause when adding to our families.

So many women understand your situation, don't think you are alone.... RL

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I am a stay at home mom 24.7 and 29 weeks pregnant with my third child. I have a 4 year old about to be 5 on the 21st of this month. I am empty with answer. He has not be diaginosed with ADHD yet. I has went to take a test and the lady didn't see the things that i see everyday. I have been told since he was 2 years old that he needs to be tested for ADHD. I finially do it and it is like i still get no answers. I get told i may need parenting classes ( like it is my fault). Or other advice from someone else.

I am tired of battling with him. I want to just give up sometimes. and when I do I feel sorry for him and treat him nice. When I treat him nice and give him all the attention for that day. It is like the next day he runs me over. He is destructive, selfish, doesn't listen when he is being talked to, etc.... There is so much. I need help. Someone give me some answers that the doctor is not giving me.

The doctor says that it somes like to her that he likes to be in control of everything. When she did the testing the dont what he likes. which is not a bad thing. but was not what I was hoping for. I was hoping for more just watching and not enteracting with him. I want to do a brain scan. to want kind of activity is going on in his brain. I think that i will get answers that way. What can i do? Please email me at loashl3@q.com with help. thanks

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