Right off her friends and parents have to know that their children might wind up doing somethings by themselves while she does; and just the presence of each other would be enough. Allow things to be so you can see. She understands more and is and could be older in a way but she's not and doesn't know how to be. Does she enjoy the littlest bit of reading that she's learning now. The particular is where she maximizes out so quick and hasn't a direction so she/it haults and closes the door. A lot more testing from you Mom, the doctors definitely want you to see where and how before she closes the door, which is okay. You have to be patient because we never learned to walk or talk in a day. Because she's so young it'll be quick and you have to except it, her liking something that might last 5 minutes today, and in two weeks 15, and in two years two hours (not that simple and easy I know). You'll learn just as much and even more. Her maximizing quick (an example), hang with me when I say that I believe if you're trying to read a book to her, I believe that you have to have books to read to her, a few stories, (a test for you, seeing if your hitting the right chords), starting a story, bingo, another story bingo, a few pages starting a story, bingo; and not finishing them for two weeks, but she remembers them all. Again you have to see. She's only seven and there is something that connects directly, and maybe 10,000 already do and she just doesn't know how to store them and/or show yet. Expressing as in tell mommy or daddy/, show mommy or daddy is something you'd like also. How long she lasts listening and watching when you're showing her something or reading to her you have to adjust and see, and definetly except it, which I'm sure you already do....? but search for understanding and don't think you're wasting a dime of time and definitely take it, your time. Do you want her to do some sports? To me Karate is where a disciplined teacher would have the patience, and I'll say can be the best if you're thinking of anything. I've been around seniors and Nursing homes a few years and have seen some minds that people have given up on. Our minds have ways, and some different. Some and more than enough of theirs are still intack and just haven't been used enough to maintain healthyness also. Amber she is revolving continuously, and you're there all around. Being young we're brats sometimes too no matter how our minds are. Excuse me when I say it so we have a little looseness not being so technical. She'll teach you a never ending patience, please have it.

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You're daughter could be mine! We have the same exact issues with her and friends. I found that it helps to have an "itinerary" planned for any playdate/sleepover. First we go over and put away all the things she does not want to share. Then we decide on activities that are safe. Making popcorn together and watching a movie (chosen before the playdate). Making & decorating cookies. Hiking, going to the playground. Any activity that won't trigger the that's mine, I don't want to share. We keep away from Polly's and Barbie's and things like that. I pretty much stay in earshot and intervene when needed. I also make sure she's had a goodnight's sleep and no junk food the day/night before. As mothers of daughters with ADHD, we have to be their coaches. I role play with her prior to the playdate and tell her what behaviors will be unacceptable. When she has a meltdown, she has to go sit by herself until she can control herself again. I also let the other parent know that she is adhd and can have issues with inflexibility and surprises. This way we're all in it together. The kids know that it's not their fault she's melting down, and she doesn't feel so different. She keeps a journal and writes in it - what happened, why is happened, how it was handled, and how it could have been handled differently. Structure, coaching, and support is what will get us through those days. Best wishes!

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My DD is older and I have always had to mediate playdates and sleepovers. Trying to get my DD to do what their guest wants to do is very hard. I am always the one coming up with activities and ideas that both can agree on. It helps that the friends who do stick around tend to be very easy going and tend to "give in" to my DD. I guess in the long run their long term friends will be the ones who are opposite of our kids.

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Thank you very much. It is such a relief to know that I am not the only onbe going through this. You have given me some very good idea's, I will use them. Thank you so much for taking the time to send this to me, I really appreciate it. I have been feeling that I am almost ready to give up, but knowing that there are other people out there going through this that have idea's and stratagies that work I know I will be able to gain some more patience and be a positive influence. Thank you very much for your help. Amber

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Mama2Girls said: You're daughter could be mine! We have the same exact issues with her and friends. I found that it helps to have an "itinerary" planned for any playdate/sleepover. First we go over and put away all the things she does not want to share. Then we decide on activities that are safe. Making popcorn together and watching a movie (chosen before the playdate). Making & decorating cookies. Hiking, going to the playground. Any activity that won't trigger the that's mine, I don't want to share. We keep away from Polly's and Barbie's and things like that. I pretty much stay in earshot and intervene when needed. I also make sure she's had a goodnight's sleep and no junk food the day/night before. As mothers of daughters with ADHD, we have to be their coaches. I role play with her prior to the playdate and tell her what behaviors will be unacceptable. When she has a meltdown, she has to go sit by herself until she can control herself again. I also let the other parent know that she is adhd and can have issues with inflexibility and surprises. This way we're all in it together. The kids know that it's not their fault she's melting down, and she doesn't feel so different. She keeps a journal and writes in it - what happened, why is happened, how it was handled, and how it could have been handled differently. Structure, coaching, and support is what will get us through those days. Best wishes!

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My daughter has been diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and Bi-polar tendancies. She started medication about a year ago and we are still working on finding the right formula. However the problem you just described is a day in the life for me. Emma will be 8 tomorrow and she is finally getting her first party but not in our home. As stated before there needs to be a constant focal point of activity so we are going out. Emma has a three year old brother and so we are constantly dealing with the mine issue or a meltdown over the smallest of things. I can tell you that the first thing I did was give Emma a place no one is allowed to go but her. This way instead of screaming, hitting, or well who knows she runs to her place a lets her brain calm down. She has total control of that area no one is allowed there without asking permission first. It can be under a bed/table, a spot in a closet since for her the smallness of the area is important. Again make sure the parents understand that some mishaps may happen and make sure the friend knows at the time it happens she has done nothing wrong and have a project you can do together when/if it does. Emma does much better with movies and board games then with free play so we always have them picked out ahead of time. Plus, we do not let the girls sleep in the bedroom we set them up in the family room so there is no temptation of getting a book or toy and a problem arising. One last thing that I received from Emma's psychiatrist on the last visit is that she will behave in this way to get some undivided attention so as he put it try to play down your reaction and make sure she just doesn't need five or ten minutes alone with you. Good Luck

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my 7.5 yr old boy would be very simaliar in his ways, have taken him off medication due to the situtions being worse and give him pure fish oil tabs and natural remidies to keep him calm believe me he is much more managable. the best way I could adivse you is to talk to her trying to get her to under stand how her friends feel when she dominates them ask her, how she would feel If they done it to her in a nice why, seeing things from different angles and ask if she could try that the next time. I always tell him to try and decide between them what they want to do so if we play cars for abit then we will kick the ball so every body is happy. talking to her about situtions. As my boy likes to run away from me alot in the most filled shops but before we get out of the car I now allows ask what the three rules are and I am told perfectly and 75% of the time he abids with them .

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my 16b has always had trouble with friendships. thanks for the suggestions. and also testing the site this is my first entry and not sure how it works

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I just want to say to everyone that if medications help - use them! And don't feel guilty or be made feel guilty by other people who have not trodden the same path as you- there are thousands of stories of people responding differently to different medications - you've just got to find the right one for you - it may be fish oil tablet it may be strattera it may be ritalen - it may be behavioural modification - We dont go through such moral dilemmas when kids have diabeties, or leukeamia, etc. My son was not diagnosed until he was 12 (not due to lack of trying) and by that time - without medication - he had managed to lose all his friends and be labelled by many people in the community. So I believe if medication improves the quality of a child's life we have a moral responsibility to provide it. And remember everybody responds differently to different types of ADHD medication.

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