Do you have a grandparent or friends in the area who are willing to let the two of you have a evening alone? Unfortunately you will have to plan a Date . as if you two were meeting and wanted time to together what did you do when there wasn't children? and try to create the time

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We do have some family in the area who take them for the night sometimes, but most of the time we are just so tired that we fall asleep and get the rest we normally don't get a chance to get. I guess we just need to set aside our tiredness and make the effort to be intimate with each other.

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i cant believe i am writing this. just being able to help you on this subject is huge for me. i am 54, married, with a 15 year old son. i found out i was add/hd 5 years ago and a year ago found out i have a very complicated addiction that makes it a miricle i can respond to you about this subject. in my case my wife has gone threw a lot of anger first about my lack of career and friends, then add, then the addiction. so you can imagine being intimate has been far from our thoughts. we were on our 3rd marriage counselor and found someone wonderful. slowly things have improved in all areas. so i guess i am saying if you keep trying and reading and looking for help, even a 20 year marriage can survive add/hd and my new "gift" i found out a year ago i had. like all of us making friends has been a disaster for me so if anyone wants to contact me , feel free to. i am more than willing to share my experiences. best of luck to you and your husband.

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