My 14 yr old daughter has what I would consider mild ADHD. She splits time between my home (25%) and her mother (75%).

I believe our daughter is struggling with time management. Her mother agrees but thinks our daughter is doing the best she can and it is unrealistic to expect her to do any better. I disagree and believe if help our daughter develop better time management skills / habits, she can become more independent in managing her own schedule (school, sports, and social). Right now her mother tells her where she needs to be and when to get ready. She encourages her to use her school planner, but does not provide consistent support to ensure it is used daily.

In my home, I provide a little more structure and give her the tools to manage her own time (calendar board, chalk board with to-do lists, and prepare the night before for the upcoming day). When she uses the tools, she is managers her time with no problems. But if I don't provide oversight, she can slip back into the bad habits.

I simply don't want ADHD to prevent my daughter from developing the time management skills necessary to be successful in high school, college, and life. I guess i need help with a few things.

1. How can I determine realistic expectations given her ADHD? 2. If it is found, she indeed can and should be further advanced with her time management skills, how can I communicate this to her mother who I believe is using ADHD as a crutch for herself as a parent and for our daughter? 3. Most importantly, how can I develop an action plan to not just have her manage her time, but develop her skills so she can become independent in her own time management?

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