Hi Mom:

You're not crazy at all! You're doing the best you can and dealing with a very full plate right now. It's normal to feel frustrated and even depressed or unmotivated when you're busy each and every day with two high-needs children, plus your own medical problems on top of that.

Are you able to work exercise" into your daily routine at all? I find that, as difficult as it is to get motivated for a jog some days, I always feel more motivated and with a clearer head afterward. The same goes for local:/adhd/article/859.html:"diet. It's easier to eat a frozen pizza, but I'm more likely to get off the couch after dinner if I eat something healthier instead.

Anyway, here are a few articles about ADD Moms that I would recommend for you...

13 Survival Strategies for ADD Moms

4 Life Tips for ADHD Moms

Get Organized: Best Resources for ADD Moms

Survival Strategies for SuperMom

I hope this helps!

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I plan on reading these while I let my kids watch a movie tonight. After an ADD/ADHD meeting that I went to last night put on by the state, I was even more depressed. They just kep saying how much the ADD/ADHD child needs routine and structure but I kept thinking "How am I supposed to give her that when I have a very hard time doing it for myself?" I know I am strong enough to do this but sometimes I just want to run away!

Have a good day!

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I hope you, or someone who could be comforted by it maybe, sees this! I feel exactly the same way -- unmotivated, overwhelmed, depressed, demoralized, resigned, and oh yeah, ANGRY -- don't know how I'm supposed to get everything done AND THEN BE CHEERFUL AND LOVING. that's one thing that REALLY GETS ME. i feel like, ok, i got this, this, this, this and this done for ALL OF YOU, but it's not enough, is it? now i'm supposed to radiate relaxation, fun and loving-ness!! well, you try it. try folding, cleaning, running around doing errands, grocery shopping, trying to exercise, checking my bleeping email all the time to keep track of all of YOUR activities (this so much fun b/c it just makes more work for me, but if i don't do it, it's worse -- excellent choices! This all SO MUCH FUN. and i know, i'm just a big, fat, spoiled, stupid complainer, because my life is really very good, it could be so much worse, i'm incredibly lucky. i could have real things to worry about like food, water, safety. so many things. i need to start volunteering b/c it would give me more perspective and make me feel more useful, maybe good about myself, or get a JOB, b/c being a homemaker is just intrinsically "sisyphian" (sp) i mean everything you do gets immediately un-done, and it seems you have to be really exceptional at it, to "shine" in any way -- and what does that look like anyway -- a beautiful, clean home? beautiful, clean, smart, intelligent children? a happy home life? folded unwrinkled unfaded un-dingy clothing? clean nails and faces? anyway. I don't think i'm all that good at any of this. i don't like to "entertain," sort-of HATE having people over -- it makes me incredibly self-conscious b/c everyone can see my pathological clutter and sloven slobbiness, and they can also see how my children can be surly, completely out of control and otherwise rude. So, what's the UP-side of all of this?? tell me again how it can BENEFIT me?? i know it's good for the kids -- so i do it (or switch between doing it a lot, some, and not at all, when I've done it too much and can't take it anymore. i have learned it's more sustainable if i do it somewhat moderately) but i DO IT, and rarely enjoy it (I know! it's not ABOUT ME!!!! NONE OF THIS IS!!!! parenting isn't about you -- it's about them! they didn't ask to be born. it's my job to make them happy, or at least okay. that's the bottom line. just suck it up. the time for my happiness is OVER (oh yeah, WHEN was that? b/c childhood certainly wasn't any great shakes either -- it wasn't about me then EITHER.

yes I know. this has become a rant, just like my other blog. which i am stupidly putting out there into the ether for the whole world to have access to in perpetuity.

i started this to try to make crazy mom feel better. sorry. well we all know as grown-ups we need to try to work in some time for ourselves, so we don't feel so resentful towards the people WE HAVE CHOSEN to bring to life and into our lives. i'm preaching to myself. i'm sure crazy mom knows all this.

thanks for the space. well wishes (truly) to everybody out there

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