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college strategies
I know exactly what you're talking about. I was not diagnosed as a child until I got to college. I was always bright and creative enough to just wing tests, figure things out on the spot, and write essays at the last possible second. I was also an expert at delaying deadlines and writing apology letters. But 30page research papers and month long projects proved to be too much for me. I started pulling way too many unsuccessful all-nighters, drinking too much coffee, inconsistent use of meds, inconsistent meals, sleep, always tardy to class, etc. I also chose to regulate my own meds in part because I refused my diagnosis. It all contributed to depression and relationships and unfortunately I was put on probation and asked to leave the school. The same thing always said was repeated on my way out the door, "But, you have SO much potential." Well intentioned, it felt like a slap in the face and spit on my kicks.
My school did offer services along with counseling but I was too embarrassed to use them all. My probationary year has ended and I still have not gone back. I've been through two successful positions working with kids, but disorganization, deadlines, procrastination, and anxiety came back with a vengeance. I had to leave my job in much the same way. Today I work in a high school and try to support kids with the same disadvantages and more. I also know my strengths now and avoid things that will demand too much of my weaknesses. I'm more organized in life in general (financially, spiritually, creatively, family, goals) but it took an all around wake up call and most of all I believe it took age to gain wisdom in mistakes.
My advice to you:
1.You have some rights. Contact your Dean and ask for a contract backed by your doctor. You can ask for things like time and a half on tests, a limited number of emergency extended deadlines, or my favorite, a classmate note taker.
2. Use technology. You can also ask for or purchase equipment to type your papers as you speak into a mic, use a voice recorder, books on tape, organizers, headphones if it helps to drone out distractions.
3. Use friends. Ask someone to write your ideas down as you dictate, or ask to share notes. For big projects, owe them a night out for celebration and thanks for their help.
4. Be honest with your professors. For the most part they will understand but they don't want their compassion to be overextended.
5. Give yourself a schedule and a TO DO list and stick to it. Include things like eat, shower, sleep, chill with friends. It feels good to cross those things off, too. Even if you can’t have a regular schedule, try to get the same things accomplished everyday to establish routine.
6. Don't stay in the library or any place you're trying to work/study when you're not focused. Give yourself a 5 min break or try a new spot.
7. If you lose things easily, use one bag for all your things and bring it wherever you go.
8. If you choose not to use meds, you can wake yourself up by smelling alerting essential oils like lemon and grapefruit and relax your brain at night with lavender or chamomile. Or do yoga inversions like standing on your head. It works!
9. Use alarms on your cell phone for anything and everything reminders: Study time, Break time, meds time, lunch time, class time, upcoming deadlines, time to begin a project, etc.
10. Exercise, drink water, and avoid too much alcohol or caffeine. You need to circulate your blood and stagnant energy around. It will also help put your body on routine.
11. Know your body. Pay attention to when you pay attention! Take advantage of the times you are best focused.
12. When you think of something, just do it! Just write, just clean, just do whatever it is pops into your mind. Keep a sketch book to write ideas. Many times all you need to do is copy and finalize.
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