I too have son who has ADHD and we are in different homes. I purchase meds and then 1/2 the script and send some to Dads house. I feel your pain, My ex never believed me regarding my son's symptoms. We just have to stand up and be advocates for our children. Good luck!

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Hello n8tv mom:

Welcome to the ADDitude forums and thanks for posting your question. How frustrating to feel you're fighting uphill as you battle for your son's best interests. I'm probably not telling you anything new when I say that consistent routines are essential for ADHD children. Predictable schedules help kids feel safe and secure, and they can help ADDers function with less anxiety and fewer behavior problems.

I wonder if you ex would be open to a conversation about setting up a schedule that you both can maintain at your homes? You could have slightly different rules, but the same daily pattern of events, which would include a specific time (or times) for taking that ADHD medication each day.

Perhaps if he sees the medication as part of a bigger picture - improving behavior through routine - he will be more cooperative?

As for getting two months worth of medication at once (one month at your ex's pharmacy and one at yours), perhaps you can speak with your son's doctor about this...

Best of luck, Anni

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I had to start filling the rx myself and supply the meds to my daughter's dad. I also documented the effects of the visitatiion schedule on my daughter (school problems when returning from dad's, lack of consistant med level in her system because it wasn't aleays given, lack of routine, etc) and went back to court and had visitation changed from every other week to every other weekend. I have seen marked inprovement with my daughter since I made the change. Good Luck

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I feel your pain. For the last five years, since his father walked out on us, my son with ADD has had many times in which it appeared he was going through I downward spiral. If you have joint custody, why not take him to the doctor yourself and then you will be in control of the prescriptions Keeping a journal regarding behavior before and after visits is a great idea. I am going to begin to do this myself. My ex and I had an extremely bitter divorce, but once the dust settled, we came up with a set of rules that would be in place in both houses. Having my children in therapy because of the break-up, and having there father sit through sessions was a big help. If you have not done this yet, I strongly recomend it.

My biggest problem now is the fact that my ex's family now feels free to give my ex "advice" that is not only ignorant, but dangerous. His mother looked my child in the face and claimed that there was no such thing as ADD and that I was using medication to make my life easier. Because of this detrimental behavior, I migh have to go to court to ask for sole custody so that I can control who does and does not get to see my children.

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