I would have him tested by a doctor yourself -- the schools are not medical experts. I know you do not want him on drugs, but if he really does have ADHD, they will make a world of difference -- things get worse, not better, if not treated properly. If he does not need meds, great! When a child has ADHD -- they make MANY bad behavior choices -- that's part of the disability. My 16-yo son has made thousands of bad choices -- but we have been there with him throughout it all and it does get better. Yes, he has been on meds since he was 7 (and still is) -- but he is very smart (extremely high IQ), gets fair grades (not organized at all), very artistic (singing, visual art, drama, etc.), and everyone loves him (except the teachers he doesn't get along with). Sounds like he was just like your son is now -- to see him now, you wouldn't believe all that he has been through. No, he's not your perfect student -- but with everyone's help and keeping him involved with things he enjoy -- he's doing welll. It will get better ... also, after you have him tested, look into getting him an IEP with the school (this will be a necessity -- especially as he gets older and into middle/high school). Good Luck!

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