Hello, I have ADHD and I understand how it feels to think people are ignoring you or that they don't want you around. But I want you to know that is not true. I take DBT, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. (It is too much for me to really explain, but I love it and if you google it you can read more about it.) Basically, it is a skills class. It is NOT just for boarderline people, so please do not freak when you read that. Many therapists use it to help people that suffer from pain and can no longer use painkillers for treatment. Anyway, I want to share with you what my doctors tell me, unless it is a fact, it isn't true. If 10 out of 10 people don't agree, then don't believe it. So you have to turn the mind and change your way of thinking. As an ADHD person, just diagnosed in 2007, I have very low self esteem, I always wondered why I was so stupid and struggled in school, so through DBT I am learning to change the story I tell myself. Basically,the way I think and view the world. It is hard because the old way is such a comfort and so easy. And let's face it, change is scary. So when you start to feel paranoid about something or someone, try this, window shop, don't buy it. Just look and don't buy what they are saying. Does that make sense? Also, my therapists like for me not to be judgemental, which is the very difficult. But it's a process, and worth it. So, you have ADD and so does your husband. You have some things going on with your mother and son. I want to tell you I will pray for you. God knows what He is doing and you can count on Him always. Let His shoulders carry your weight and you relax. You belong on this board as much as anybody. This forum is about ADD relationships, love and more...if we don't support each other, noone else will. Anyone that has made you feel uncomfortable, I apologize that your feelings were hurt, that wasn't very skillful of them. I will be judgmental right now and offer this advice, they need DBT. We will never be "cured" I realize that, but I have 4 therapists that treat me: I go to 1hr. of individual therapy, 2hrs. DBT, and 45mins. rx sessions. This is on a weekly basis. So I work diligently on my ADHD. I also do co-therapy with my individual therapist and my spouse's therapists bi-weekly. Out of the 5 therapists, 4 are DBT trained, all medical doctors, 1 is a Phd and EMDR trained. I also am apart of an ADHD support group. So please understand this thread is one of support for you and care. Good luck to you. And stay strong. Write what you want. If people want to respond they can, if they don't want to, they don't have to. And if the moderators feel you are posting in the wrong place they can guide you to another forum. But this site is for ADD people, so that is why you are here. I am proud of you, very interpersonally effective. I hope people remember how ADD people think, what they do and their creative outlets. I also hope people here don't stop that outlet. ADD and ADHD people need their creative outlets be it this, painting, drawing, book writing, etc...take care.

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