like me a lot of readers don't respond and get a lot from resding add stories. i am 54,male, married, one son-15years old. i was diagnosed with addhd about 5 years ago and a year ago diagnosed with a addiction also. its been a rough year for all three of us. i will write more if u are interested. DON'T GO!!!! dave. dave_millman@yahoo.com

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I think you you never have anything positive to say so many people will look and then say nothing . I have answered you many times in the past ; and don't get a response always back. We are also people with our lives, difficulties and hearing just the negative things can bring us down. I write many times in forums and unless it something someone can relate to they won't answer either. Sometimes we are super sensative and lack tack and fell it better not say anything so we don't have anything negative to say. Honestly if I was in your shoes how responsive would have been?>?? Besides what more can we say the whole story is saddening, and it always complaining about everyone else . Never you have a upbeat positive story to tell . Never a question, never advice . Frankly at times it sounds like you are waiting for us to fix it we don't know how . So sad to see you go; but do what you have to.

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Perhaps some people are not posting, because we do not know what to say that will be helpful to you. What do you think when you look at other posts? I am sure you do not answer every post on this site. That does not mean you are not caring. It probably means you have your own situations, and if you knew how to help the others, you would. Never give up.

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I'm new to this forum. I've been struggling for 20 years with a man who has ADD. Not being heard is one of my complaints. My problems with him aside, I find that can be a problem where ever I go. Sometimes we need to vent. Sometimes we need empathy, sympathy. Sometimes we need to embrace what IS and find a way from there. It can be an ugly, crooked, unclear path. Somedays I wanna give up. Somedays I put it on a shelf and most days I'm sad for myself and my conundrum. I understand your grief, saddness, anger, fear and depression. Tommorrow is another day. Look for a counselor for you, only. Make yourself a priorty, you know your man does!! I have a personal trainer that I see 2x a week. I'm chunky and old, but I keep on lifting those weights. Why? Because it's my time, even if he thinks it does no good. At 48, I have no idea where my life is going. I feel like I've done so many things, if I'm not happy now nothing will help. I know I felt better knowing most of our communication/life has been due to ADD. Here I thought it was me the entire time! I'm not afraid of your darkness. Write me anytime.

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I appreciate your uplifting words , I'm glad to know that I am not the only one out there who is affected by their spouses ADD/ADHD ( in my case it's my spouses ADHD& OCD ) that in turn affect my ADD . I'll be honest the last yr & 10 months has been incredibly trying . Going through a horrible yr long custdy battle over my 8 yr old son ( from a previous relationship) , then I lost un Uncle last Sept , then this past May I lost my grand mother , all the while still going through the horrible custdy battle involving DSS ( all because the woman / childhood friend whom I had given Temp Guardianship of my son ) decided that she would make a false report with DSS stating that my partner/ spouse abused my son & sexually molested my son ) all because she didn't want to take care of my son any more but didn't want to be a real woman about it and just given him back to me with out a fight) I'll be honest all that was incredibly rough on me , considering the fact that I had been best of friends with this woman for 20 something yrs . Dealing with the betrayal of her starting a fire for no reaon was really hurtful . It was incredibly hard because in the end I had to end up giving my son for adoption which was one of the hardest decisions I have ever had to make . That was almost 5 months ago , and even still now there are days where I just don't want to get up , I don't want to go out I just want to stay @ home sitting in my chair blogging until I have nothing left .

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