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23 Sep 2008 @ 12:22 PM
LadyRaines526928 Join Date: Wed 12th Mar 2008
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Looking for a Response

First of all I know that this site is for ADD/ ADHD people / love / relationships ect - Now I really like being apart of this site simply because I can be myself & I'm among people that just like me, how ever I haven't been getting any responses to any of the blogs I have written lately, and I've kinda felt ignored, almost like everyone on here who views the blogs I write, just looks @ them, read them & are like all she does is complain & spill her guts to anyone who would listen. I hope that none of the blogs I have written haven't been boring, every blog I write is from my heart and the deepest part of my soul - I have been through a lot the last 5 months, first the whole horrible ordeal I went through with my son & Leslie ( whom I was extremely close to, not to mention had a sister like relationship ) dealing with some one that close to you hurts you & hurts your child as well - none of that was easy , dealing with not being able to see my son , that was hard , I still have yet to get a visitation with my son , simply because I have yet take the assessments in which the judge ordered - the only reason why I have not taken the assessments yet is only because I have been busy with moving my mom out of the house in which she lived in for 30 yrs, and I know that it's just too much to do a psychological assessment & moving my mom @ the same time was just too much for one person - Then just recently a week ago my mom's only brother ( my uncle LLoyd suffered a massive heart attack a week ago yesterday and passed away a week ago today , so dealing that has been quite difficult, all I'm trying to do now is to get my breath back and then with in the next week or so I'll make the phone call to my case worker to find out where do I go to get this physological asessment done along with all the other assesssments - then once all the assessments are completed, well see about getting some supervised visitation with William granted. Now I'll be honest not being able to see William for a while when all the drama was going on was really hard simply because I missed him so badly ( and I still do ) but once I had seen some pictures of him and spoken to his guardian at Litem and got proof that William is ok & thriving & the fact that he's happy , made me feel so much better - Truth of the matter is i don't have a problem not being able to see William right now , I love him enough to be patient and wait on him , the last thing i want to do is to push for a supervised visitation when he's not mentally & emotionally ready - the last thing I want do is to cause him more mental and emotional pain plus I'm really trying to respect William's therapist and wait until he or she signs off on a supervised visitation. I know that it will all come soon until then I just have to be patient .

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23 Sep 2008 @ 12:42 PM Reply # 1
cabplus4 Join Date: Tue 17th Jun 2008
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why am I getting no response to my blogs

I'm new and have some questions about your message. Why have you been appointed a guardian ad litem. What is your involvement with the courts about? Sounds like you have a great deal of stress in your life. Who is ADHD? You? your child? Interested in Orlando

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23 Sep 2008 @ 1:07 PM Reply # 2
LadyRaines526928 Join Date: Wed 12th Mar 2008
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The reason why my son has been appointed a Guardian @ Litem is to be an advacte for my son and what he wants . @ this moment I am involved in nasty custdy dispute between a good girlfriend of mine ( whom I have known for 27 yrs) in sept 04 I had given my good girlfriend temp guardian of my son William ( whom was 3 ) because @ the time I was living @ home with my mother who suffers from cronic pain , I was having a hard time taking care of her, the house and my son , so I did a temp guardianship with my best friend of 27 yrs - unfortunately the Temp guardianship went bad this past May - when my bestfriend decided that since the guardianship papers were drawn in up FL , she figured she would come back to the state of NC ( here where I live) she came back up to NC and wen to DSS told them that the man ( Jeremy whom I've been with since my son was 4 months old) threw my son into a wall when he was 2 1/2 - 3 yrs of age and sexually molested him - of course that sparked a major investagation - a month later the investagation was closed on Jeremy , because they couldn't find any evidence that he abused my son physcially or sexually - From there I went to court and the judge order me to take a phsyological asessment, along with parenting classes - he also had DSS take my son out of the home of his Temp guardian , because of some abuse and neglect on her part, she has since then lost custdy of my son and my son has been placed into a kenship placement with wonderful people - My lawyer's have informed me that because of Jeremy's past record , that the court isnt' going to budge simply because his long lengthly record views him as dangerous , that it wouldn't matter if he did all the asessments and did a 180 degree turn arround , no court or judge if ever going to award custdy of my son back to me as long as I'm with Jeremy . So I have opted fr a better idea of to sign custdy of my son over to his kenship placement parents, I'm not putting him up for adoption , nor am I signing my rights away - truth of the matter is I just want my son happy , and I want im to have a good life, even if that means sacroficing my motherly heart - the last thing I want to is put him through yrs and yrs of being in and out of court - all i can do is try to preserve the relationships I have left and have a part in my son's life - if even that means yrsof supervised visiation ,all I want is a relationship with my son no matter how that comes about - I deserve that much as so does he . As to your question , I am ADD, my partner of 8 yrs Jeremy is ADHD - my son William ( i believe is ADD but we're still not quite sure yet) because he is only 7 right now.

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24 Sep 2008 @ 11:07 AM Reply # 3
Anni Join Date: Thu 25th Oct 2007
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Thank You

Hi there:

Thank you for your contributions to the ADDitude message boards over the past year. Please know that we wish you all the best as you wade through the legal struggles with your son and health struggles with your mother. Often, it's just tough to know how to respond to your posts since you're often not asking any specific questions about ADHD - in fact, I've often thought that your contributions read more like a blog and that you should consider setting up a free blog for yourself at blogger or wordpress. It's a great outlet or venting your frustrations and sharing your joys in an environment that you totally control.

Just a thought...

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24 Sep 2008 @ 1:51 PM Reply # 4
LadyRaines526928 Join Date: Wed 12th Mar 2008
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then why should I stay apart of ADDitude

Basically what I'm being told is that , my blogs are boaring and that I need to find some place else to vent - that if i'm not discussing ADD/ADHD then i'm not welcome - stupid me for thinking that people on here actually care about the things i'm going through, My ADD affects my life every single day - The fact that I"m ADD and Ive been a long term 8 yr relationship with man who suffer's from ADHD as well as OCD is far from easy , so many people have told me that me being ADD and my other half being ADHD makes our relationship in general harder - I've been told that we shouln't even be together because of our LD.

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