Well I am happy to report that my mom is finally that my mom has gotten a one bed room, one bath apartment which is closer to Jeremy & I . A couple of months ago my mom called her morgage company & told them that she could no longer take care of the house that she has been living in since 1978 , she told them that not only she coud she not keep up with taking care of the house but that the moragage that she has been paying on for ever now isn't hurting more than it's helping her . She told them that she was just wasn't able to do it any more and that she is moving out to a smaller place . Yesterday Jeremy I begain the big task of cleaning out the house - we were able to get all of the kitchen done, all the cabinets emptied accept for the one's that are in use right now, then we were took care of the room which use to be my son's room - that room will be used to store the items my mom will be taking with her to her new place- to say the least we worked through the night because right now night time is the best because of cooler temp . Tomorrow we plann on getting up early to go back over and clean out the living room , along with the cloest , then we'll hit the computer room - clean everything out accept the computer which is be left for last . Then Tuesday Jeremy and I will hit the master bed room ( which use to be my mom's bed room ) & the bath room - that room in it's self will be an all day process because there so much old stuff that just needs to be thrown out . Jeremy and I will then hit the down stairs den area which will the 2nd to the worst out of all of the rooms in the house. The final room will be my old bed room which is the room my mom is currently staying in because its alot esier for her to physically walk from one room to another because it's not that much of a distance. I'll be honest Jeremy & I cleaning out the house in it's self isn't all that hard of a job - it's the fact that we're dealing with a cat problem which is my mother didn't mean to get her self into but has - so to say the least its really never racking trying to clean out stuff, move stuff and empty stuff when ever you got 20 or more cats ranging from big to small that tend to get under your feet when ever your walking - Right now Jeremy and I can't get rid of all the cats until the whole house is cleaned out completely - then we'll call the local animal haven to come and get all the cats which are mostly faral and wild - there for not allowing Jeremy and I to catch them our selfves . God have mercy talk about a dirty nasty job , the smell alone will choke you ( which is why Jeremy and I wear gloves and masks . I know we both be happy once my mom is out of that house and she is over in her new place & settled in . I'm really hoping that once she is settled & has her phone hooked up that she will be able to get the VA to help her get some sort of home health assistance ( given the fact that she is a Retired Nurse Corp Captin) she should qualify for every service they got . That right there will take alot of stress off of me and as Jeremy as well . I know that for me being a caregiver for my mom since I was 18 has been quite stressful on top of having ADD well just makes it all that much more stressful . I know that since Jeremy & I have been together since 2001 , I know that the last 4 yrs of Jeremy and i being caregiver's together has really taken it's toll on him , and on us . I know that alot of the reason why we tend to have agrueements is mostly due to the stress from being a caregiver to my mom . Now don't get me wrong I love my mom with all my heart , she's been there for me so much and has helped me become the person I am today but I know that I need my own life, I know in order to have my own life i can't continue to be a caregiver for my mom , because it's not only not healthy for her and I & our relationship but it's also not healthy for my and Jeremy's relationship . I know if I'm ever going to go back to school to get my GED & then to presue getting my degree in graphic web design I have to be able to comitted 100% to that - there for i can't be taking care of my mom all the time , neither can Jeremy bless his heart whom has gone over board in his son in law duties, same goes for me I have gone over board in my own daughterly duties . I just pray that the home health assistance helps my mom because god knows she needs it and she deserves it , it's not her fault all of this has turned out the way it has , it's not really any one' fault but I know that some thing has to change for all of us .

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