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22 Aug 2008 @ 2:09 PM
bloogoo Join Date: Thu 10th Jul 2008
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Why does my child behave for Grandparents only?

My 7 year old daughter was expeled from her school last year for behavior and denied admitance to another when she couldn't focus for one day when she sat in on a class. She really wanted to go to the school she was denied at, but just couldn't behave the way she knew she should. I cannot get any support from my parents on the idea that she is ADHD. She behaves for them, so of course they think it's me and that I am not being a strict enough parent. BTW I am a single parent, with adhd as well. I had to wait until I was an adult before I could get diagnosed, because they thought I was just lazy and procrastinated too much. Now they are treating my daughter the same way. So my questions are: Why does she behave for them? How can I explain to them when they don't see the other side?

Sorry, I'm just emotional about this right now and needed to rant a little...

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23 Aug 2008 @ 10:49 AM Reply # 1
masterharpe Join Date: Sat 23rd Aug 2008
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children with adhd that behave for others but not thier parents

I understand completly my boys would not listen to my husband or I either but would be good for other people .

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23 Aug 2008 @ 11:54 AM Reply # 2
LoraR Join Date: Sat 23rd Aug 2008
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Behaving for certain persons and not others

I have experienced the same thing with my son as well. In fact he has had problems with many people and then just one person he will behave wonderfully for all the time. I have learned over time to pay attention to how these key people respond to him and treat him and I try to adopt some of their skills with him and other children. Last year his teacher was one of those people. He got through the school year with no or little to no episodes it was as if she knew how to difuse any anger so easy. I respect her for that but I know that he still has to learn to handle people that do not relate well to him so I try to bring the balance and not treat him with kid gloves all the time as others will usually not give him all the extra attention and time and love. He needs to have both to train him for life. I wrote an article on my personal experience if you would like to check it out: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/955233/conquering_adhd_setting_a_boy_free.html?cat=5

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