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7 Aug 2008 @ 7:46 AM
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O.K. I Messed This Up a Bit

I left a post elsewhere, but can't find it to delete it. Sorry. My wife of twenty-five years recently divorced me, and I'm thinking of dating again - soon. I had, until recently, undiagnosed ADD/ADHD. Both kinds and both sometimes fighting one another for control of my brain. I've been on meds for about about fifteen months. I have a couple of graduate degrees, so I'm somewhere in the ball park, just where, I don't know. I was better off, in some matters, prior to my diagnosis and meds.

The teaching hospital that I use has tested every known ADD/ADHD med on me. None are effective. Currently, I'm at a high dosage of Adderall with little affect, and I don't see anywhere else to go. Back to my question. Am I supposed to date people like me... with ADD/ADHD? Or am I supposed to avoid dating ADDers? I can't remember. Perhaps you know. When it comes to relationships, please, the more details the better. Nuanced, I'm not. Thanks!

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7 Aug 2008 @ 1:35 PM Reply # 1
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Hi Oh, Boy!

Welcome to the ADDitude forums! Your question is such an interesting one - maybe because I don't think there's any one right or wrong answer. Some adults with ADD find they can relate better to a mate who also has the disorder. Others find that two distracted minds is more than one relationship can handle. I think it really depends on how you manage your ADHD, what your symptoms look like, whether you want and welcome help in organizing your life, etc. The only thing that I can say with any certainty is: Be truthful about your ADHD! If you find yourself in a relationship that is potentially quite serious, be upfront about your symptoms, diagnosis and treatment. Chances are, you'll learn very quickly how this other person views ADHD and whether they will hurt or hinder your efforts to manage it....

Best of luck! (Gosh, do you think ADDitude should start a dating site for ADDers?)

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7 Aug 2008 @ 2:42 PM Reply # 2
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Anni: Thanks for your reply; good advice. Yes, I would like to try an ADDITUDEmag.com dating site. I will volunteer as a Beta tester!

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7 Aug 2008 @ 2:44 PM Reply # 3
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You know, a dating site is not a half-bad idea...

But then we would probably all hyperfocus on it and forget to reply to each others' messages...

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