Hi,

I am engaged to be married to a wonderful man, with 3 awesome kids. However, the youngest, 7, has not been formerly diagnosed with ADD but a Phys. thinks it is possible. His symptoms match those of ADD... and his behavior sometimes is out of control.

I discussed my concerns with my fiance but, I am not sure anyone is taking this issue as a priority. I am afraid if we obtain custody of the children in the future, and his son is not treated/diagnosed, it will put a strain on the family as a whole.

My future stepson, as much as I love him, ...cannot tolerate being told "no", and has no self control. He often fights with his siblings, and his behavior affects them. Also, I see the effect it has on my children.

I am frightened that I do not think I could be around him (my stepson) 24 hours a day without it really stressing me out. It is hard to get him to listen, and the constant friction is hard to handle.

Does anyone have advice for me...? I love my fiance AND the kids, but I am not sure what the future hold if we do not get his son help. My fiance's hands are tied for now, due to a statement in the Custody Papers concerning Mental Health testing. His ex-wife will not sign anything to get him tested, even after problems he has in school.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated...

Thank you, Rachel

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