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26 Jun 2008 @ 3:04 PM
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| Misscole |
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What Now?
I started taking meds for add 10 months ago. getting the meds to where I think they are right (I take 80mg strattera and 15mg ritalin) and getting used to them takes a while. I think they help. I am much less overwhelmed and freaked. I don't have such a barrage on information to deal with from both inside and out. I remember things better. But what now? I have spent the last 37 years struggling to get from one minute to the next while avoiding distasters as much as possible. My life used to be about keeping myself out of big messes. You know, things like getting lost, showing up for work on the wrong day, forgetting to pay the bills, bouncing checks, getting freaked out by too much noise or too many tasks or details. I used to work alone and I loved it. I have having anyone watch me. other people around me is hard to deal with all day. I have been at home with my kids for 7 years now. the meds do help me cope with my kids better, but it is still hard to be around people all day with no break. the meds are allowing me enough mental space to think beyond the next crisis (they are fewer and farther between). but I don't know who I am now. as someone with add, you rarely finish anything and have incredible guilt about not doing enough. I have started to be able to set goals, break them down, and follow the plan. but I don't know what I want to do. It makes me happy to successfully complete anything. but so much of the stay at home mom thing is the same thing over and over. clean up stuff, feed kids, take kids places, do all this over again. I complain a lot about how I never finish cleaning the house and how the kids leave their stuff everywhere and I am not appreciated. My partner thinks I complain a lot. I don't know if I am creating problems because that is what I am used to. I don't know how to define success for myself. I tend to focus on the glass half empty and see things in terms of failure. I know this is an add thing. How do I start to change my way of reading the world? how do I look for the good side and really mean it? How do I start to let go of the constant worry that I don't do enough? thanks Nicole |
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26 Jun 2008 @ 7:40 PM
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| Poochie |
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Hat's off to you
Nicole, I can relate to many of your general feelings and frustrations. I don't know how long you have been diagnosed, but ten months is really not that long on your meds - when you consider your 37 years prior medication. I have only been on my meds for about two years, giving me a new angle on life compared to my prior 31 years. I am still trying to settle into the new "normal", I have found the changes and information really helpful but at the same time a little unsettling. I never really sat down to consider the way I functioned prior medication - not because I didnt realize I was left of center, more due to the fact that I was running through life like a chook without a head! From your post I gather that you have a partner, children and a job, my hat is off to you sister!
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27 Jun 2008 @ 2:50 PM
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| Anni |
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Some Resources
Hi Nicole: Poochie is absolutely right: You have a tremendous amount to be proud of in your life. And the frustrations you describe re: being a SAHM are more universal than you might think - I know plenty of women without ADD who feel the same frustrations with an unappreciated daily grind at home. "Groundhog's Day" all over again... That being said, depression is a very common comorbid condition accompanying ADD in adults. We have a great article about the symptoms, diagnosis and treatment of depression in adult with ADHD that I think you should check out... Why So Sad? Depression in ADD Adults: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/748.html This article also lists common symptoms and some good books that might help: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/1628.html And some tips for getting happy again... Six Ways to Build Better Moods with Adult ADHD: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/678.html I hope these help! |
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