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lieslsmom said: My 14-year-old daughter has been on meds since 2nd grade. Now a 9th grader, she has started acting out, totally disregarding anything I say, not keeping curfew, cutting classes, cutting school, etc. Many of her friends are older than her and she doesn't understand that they can stay out later, date or live by different rules. She's been picked up twice for truancy, cut so many classes they school wants to call child protective services and start a PINS on her. I'm at my wits end and no longer know what to do. We are currently looking into placing her in a "caring family" program, where she would be placed with another family for as long as two years, with weekly input from us, just to keep her out of foster care. Has anyone else had such an oppositional child?

My dd 13 hasn't gone that far and I'm hoping she want but her main thing is "let me make my own mistakes". I know I can't protect her 24/7 but mistakes nowadays can kill you. I guess what she was saying is I'm growing up and need to find myself and that's fine but it comes with trust, reliability and making right choices. I explained that you are at the age that you are responsible for your mistakes and how it affects myself and others, so be prepared for the consequences of your actions. Sounds like you have a plan for your dd. As parents raising adhd children we definitely need breaks and I'm due for one. Hope it works out and if it has been discussed with your dd and the other family I say go for it, don't forget to tell her its for her benefit.

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Hi: It sounds like you're facing a terribly tough time, but you obviously care a great deal about your daughter's well being and want only the best for her. As you consider alternatives, you might check out this really great ADDitude article about oppositional defiant disorder -- have you looked into an ODD diagnosis?

Making Peace with Your Defiant Child: Discipline & ODD: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/879.html

Best of luck!

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